In regard to kink, I’m looking for a complete TPE relationship. However, this does not mean I won’t have limits. I can’t believe I have to say this, but everything kink-wise revolves around control, but I want a respectful master who understands, accepts, and also has the same limits. I want to be clear in saying I am looking for someone who is almost psychotically controlling. This is not the post for a soft dominant or someone who wants to engage in this lifestyle only sometimes.

My ideal partner would be someone who takes on the title of Master, though I do have some interest in DDLG, but it would take time to develop. I want a master who is both strict and loving, someone who can balance discipline with care and nurturing. I also understand that sadism is a key element of this dynamic, but above all, I want a real connection outside of the power exchange itself. I’m American, but Europeans are preferred.

To be clear, I am not someone who needs to be constantly cared for, but I’ve recently started questioning whether my vanilla lifestyle is actually healthy for me. I’ve realized that I’ve been stuck in some negative patterns, which is why I’ve decided to reach out here instead of staying in a cycle of frustration.

A few things to know about me:

I have OCD that causes anxiety. I hope this doesn’t turn you away, but I think it’s important to be transparent. I can get very grumpy and sometimes overly angry.

I don’t smoke, do drugs, or have any major vices. I occasionally drink wine with meals, but that’s it.

This will initially be a long-distance dynamic. Relocation will and should be discussed eventually, but I am not rushing anything.

I lean towards conservative values, particularly when it comes to politics.

I am very much into homesteading and progressively living my life more naturally. Outside of that, I enjoy movies, occasionally video games, gardening, animals, DIY projects, and home decor, and I’m passionate about cooking (and I’m really good at it). I also listen to a lot of metal music.

Physically, I’m a reddish brunette with blue eyes and pale skin. I’m about 5’4” and weigh around 105 pounds. I tend to come off as serious or reserved at first, but I have a playful side once I feel comfortable. I need someone who can take the lead in conversations early on and ask the questions that help me feel at ease.

One last thing, my limits:

HARD:

Tattoos/Piercings, Body Modification, Swinging/Group Sex, Needles, Vomit/Scat

That’s about it for now. If you reach out, please be clear about what you’re looking for and don’t hesitate to ask any questions. The more you write, the better.

Any messages asking for hookups, nude photos, or sexual conversations will be deleted.