Hello all, I’m looking for a long term partner, who considers themselves a Sub or Sub leaning Switch. I'm looking for a loving relationship or good friendship with a healthy dose of Kink. Someone to chat about our days and geeky stuff as much as kinky stuff. I don't mind starting online but looking to move to RL at one point.

A bit about me: I 'm male Dom leaning Switch (mostly dom these days) living in Burlington NJ. No kids, never married, do not drink (allergies) but am 420 friendly. I'm 49, 5’10, 230lbs (chubby) , decent looking but no model,I tend to  have a long beard in the winter and short one in the summer.

On the normal side of my life I’m more of a geeky guy than a jock and would prefer to watch movies, shows or play a game over watching sports. I do enjoy going on walks, whether that's hiking or just window shopping.

Some good examples of my favorite Media

Movies, Ravenous, Tucker and Dale vs Evil, Brain Donors

TV Shows : Sandman(netflix),Farscape ,Ranma ½, Arcane

Games: Wow(no more) ,Overwatch, Hearthstone, Tekken, BG3, D&D and Pathfinder( ran for about 3 years, thinking about running again)

For kinks they are wide and varied but for me the turn on is more control than pain, That is to say I like “Dominance and Submission” more then Sadomasochism, although I do love to take someone over my knee for a spanking(I mean who doesn’t?). I lean more toward the gentle Dom With a sadistic side that comes out from time to time..

Some of the things I really enjoy are Orgasm control , tease and denial, light (affectionate) embarrassment/humiliation/degradation, praise, pet play, ABDL, begging, spanking, light bondage, light pain, Rping (can get detailed), Oral (love both giving and receiving) body worship / massage (giving and receiving), and aftercare.

What I am looking for

Cis woman

age 30-60

Kids: I'm good if you do or don't have any. If you have them I understand that ultimately they will take priority over anything we do.

Drugs and alcohol: No heavy drug use or alcohol abuse. Weed (I smoke) and light drinking are all good!

Communication:  I expect you to be open about your wants, needs and experience we have during our time together.  I expect you to communicate when you will and will not be available. I do not take kindly to getting ghosted.

Relationship : NO CHEATERS! I'm ok with poly but have no desire to be in the middle of your drama

Distance: Close to NJ is preferred but am ok with long distance to start.

Anyway I hope this catches someone's eye and if it does please shoot me a chat request. 

 I hope you all have a great and kinky night!