Hi everyone. I’m a 42-year-old man living in England. I’m single (never married) and I’m looking to meet a younger, submissive woman who dreams of being spanked over her partner’s knee. I’m not looking to rush into anything, so we’d be talking as friends initially and perhaps more if we get on. Ideally you’ll live in the UK or Europe.

The kind of dynamic I’m looking for in the long run is one where I take the lead and am head of the household, providing protection and support and guidance for my partner, who in turn looks up to and places her trust in me. A relationship where I help my partner to be the person she wants to be, which might include setting rules and boundaries and enforcing them with spankings. Communication and overarching consent are key though - this is something we’d need to work up to slowly and by mutual consent. I’m a caring, loving guy, and not a sadist, so it’s all about approaching things in a way that works for us both.

I love spanking for fun and foreplay too. It’s a big turn-on and helps to reinforce the dynamic between us. The ritual of spanking is also really important. Warning you that you’ll be spanked if you misbehave, giving you ‘the look’ that gives you butterflies in your tummy, sending you to the bedroom to wait for me, standing you in front of me and scolding you, placing you over my knee, giving you a sound spanking on your bare bottom, and lots of cuddles and reassurance afterwards.

For some reason, I find shyness and nervousness attractive, and I like to provide guidance to the girl I’m with, as well as emotional support and reassurance, lots and lots of cuddles (especially with my partner sitting on my knee), holding hands, physical affection, and forehead kisses. I love to look after my partner and make her feel safe, and I think I’m pretty good with people who are on the shy or anxious side, or who are nervous because of inexperience. I don't mind if you have no experience at all or if you’re not sure what you’re looking for - I'm happy to gently take the lead and guide you.

Other than that, I’m also looking for someone who is submissive in the bedroom - but again this is something I’d expect to develop organically over time as we get to know each other; it’s not something to rush into on day one. I’m not one for labels, but if I had to categorise myself, it would be as a ‘soft Dom’. I’m looking for a girl who dreams of finding a man who will patiently and carefully take the lead with her, and to whom in due course she will want to give herself completely. I’m not a bully or a collar-and-chains kind of guy. It’s all about subtlety and the psychological connection, about you choosing to be submissive to me because you’ve grown to trust and respect and (in time) love me, and it feels like the most natural thing in the world to do.

Although I’ve started with the kinky stuff, that’s just because it’s the hardest thing to find. It’s also important that any relationship works in normal ways. I would expect us to take our time getting to know each other so we can build trust and understanding before moving to anything physical.

In the normal world, I’m 6ft tall, about 175lbs, slim, and in good shape. I’m intelligent, well-educated, successful, and attractive. I live alone and have my own house and car and a great group of friends. I’m honest and genuine, and I value integrity and a sense of right and wrong. I tend to see the lighter side of life and think that laughing is often the most important thing. I like to spend time outdoors (camping and walking), I love reading and quiet nights in, and I often watch films and TV series. I like the odd night out at the theatre or to see live music too.

I tend to be attracted to slim or petite women. I don’t mind your age, but would prefer you to be younger than me (adults only, obviously). I’d love to meet someone intelligent, caring, sweet, genuine, and loving. Someone with her own interests, career, and friends. Someone curious about the world and who dreams of meeting a man she can grow to trust and respect.

Finally, I’ve started writing spanking stories, and there’s one on Reddit you can find via my profile. If you like it, it’s a good sign we’ll get on!

If you’d like to chat, please send me a chat request.