Hey

I'm 31 and I live in the UK. I'm looking to find someone who I can take the time to understand, explore with and support to achieve the things that she would like to.

I like getting to know people, flirting and having that feeling of wanting someone who wants me back. I would like to meet someone who has a similar outlook on life to me, or is potentially at a similar stage of life. I am settled professionally, have a good set of hobbies and passions and I unfortunately know the pain of having to call out an emergency plumber. I'm fairly relaxed day-to-day, pretty sarcastic, enjoy surreal/absurd comedy, socialising and getting out into the countryside (though I reckon I'm a city lover at heart). I love good food so if you have any restaurant recommendations let me know. I'm a good listener and will chat throughout the day about anything and everything.

Kink-wise, my favourite things revolve around some form of control and direction of a submissive partner. I like outfit control, orgasm control, edging, denial, task giving, and giving praise for all these things. I also enjoy objectification and combining humiliation/degradation into tasks that you have been set, though I tend to prefer impulsively set tasks rather than long-term, structured tasks. I would eventually like things like marks of ownership - bodywriting, 'sneaky exhibitionism' where you and I know that we're doing something naughty in public but no one else does and things of that sort. I also love femininity and lingerie, emphasising the difference in our roles in a dynamic. There's a bunch of other things I like - I'm sure it's the same for you - but where's the fun in leaving nothing to explore?

I love building anticipation over a long time so that when we finally both get a release it is that bit more special. When we start to understand more about each other and I know what makes you tick, why it makes you tick and how it makes you feel, I really enjoy getting creative and playing within the limits we set to find new ways to turn you on. I like brattiness, playfulness and a partner who recognises that sex can and should be fun, but also knows that when I take control of the situation then I'm in charge.

In a relationship I like to support my partner and build a dynamic where trust and communication is most important. This won't be instantaneous, but I'm of the opinion that if we're in a D/S dynamic and you don't feel comfortable and safe to talk to me about something that's on your mind then I'm not doing something right. Talking about a relationship in a post is potentially jumping the gun a bit but hey, I might as well put it out there and hopefully we'll have fun as we see if that'll work. I understand that life isn't always linear or easy and I enjoy building a partner up during difficult times in their lives. I am practiced at building a partner's confidence and helping them to see their worth. I value regular conversation and will happily chat throughout the day to you and let you know why if I can't do so. I like to build little touchpoints into our days so that even if we can't speak we have the opportunity to say something to one another without having to worry that we're bothering one another. Instead, what we say to each other matters and we look forward to being able to read or listen to what we say.

I am fairly tall, have very blue eyes, a deep voice and a short beard. I'm happy to share a picture of myself if you would like to see.

I'm based in the UK and don't think I'll ever move. I've lived abroad in the past but I'm a bit of a sucker for rolling countryside, a good pub and (proper) football. I reckon my dog would be annoyed if we moved overseas, too.

I look forward to hearing from you.