Time for a bit of education here folks. I've been seeing postings misusing these terms quite a bit lately. It really doesn't look good if you consider yourself one of these and don't know which one to use when describing yourself. So let's get ourselves on the right track.

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Dominant:

This word is an adjective used to describe something or something. It is often used in the biology field when describing types of genes. Such as dominant or recessive genes.

But more accurately for this place, it is used to describe a person. A person is dominant over a submissive. If you consider yourself the opposite of a submissive, then you are dominant. This is the term that, in the BDSM community, is abbreviated as Dom.

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Dominate:

This is a verb, or an action word. This is something that you do. Used a lot in sports analogies, such as, "The Cowboys will never dominate the NFL and win a super bowl." or, "When Brady was with them, the Patriots dominated every other team they played."

In a more BDSM setting, you won't often see the word used as it is. You will, however, see variations occasionally, such as dominating. But, as it is, dominate is not something you can be.

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Which to use when posting:

Well, 99 times out of 100 you will wish to use the term dominant. Examples: "I am a dominant guy, looking for a submissive." or, "I am a dominant daddy. Or a daddy dom."

On that one time out of 100, you want to use dominate more like this, "I'm a pretty strict guy and I like to dominate my women in the bedroom."

Wrong usage:

The mistake comes when people try to get fancy. They know what a DOM is, but they want to look more intelligent and impressive by using the whole big word. Much like this, "I'm a hard core dominate guy who likes submissive women."

Now, in your attempt to look cool with big words, you only look ignorant or uneducated. Sadly, we don't have a rule against stupidity... yet. So we have no reason to remove your post. All we can do is sit back and laugh at you for three days until you are eligible to post again. Hopefully, by then, those who need to will have seen this and start using the correct terminology.

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I'll leave this open for now in case the class has any questions.