Have you ever seen those venn diagrams for buying something that's fast, cheap and good? Even if you haven't, it's not hard to get the premise, you can pick two of the 3 at any time but you can't have all 3 at the same time. It seems like an odd comparison but I've felt something similar in regards to kink/play partners. Can I find something exciting? Sure. Can I find something that lasts for a long time? or healthy? Technically a platonic friendship checks both of those boxes but I wouldn't necessarily say they are "exciting". Well, no more compromising, let's shoot for the moon and try for all 3.

So, how am I going to get all 3? Well for starters, I think I need a really good post, then I need to post them in the appropriate subreddits. It does seem a bit low effort, to copy and paste the same post in multiple different subreddits but at the same time, I don't think my "sales pitch" is really going to vary between BDSMpersonals and Agegappersonals. At the end of the day, I'm offering the same thing and looking for the same thing and there are different people that visit each of those subs who might check those boxes. Well, I found myself rambling again but I'll get back on point. I do think that ended up being a nice way to structure the post though, what I'm offering and what I'm looking for, so I'll use that.

What I'm looking for: Long term, exciting and healthy. I suppose I could get a bit more specific though... starting with

Long term - I hate this part of the process, looking for someone. Sure it can be a little exciting but it gets so repetitive with the same intro conversations and the same risk of being ghosted or finding huge deal breakers or red flags early on in the conversation. So let's avoid that, lets make it so we don't have to scroll through these subreddits for days, weeks, months, or do I even dare to say years?

Exciting - It's tempting to just type a kink list and call it a day but really I don't think we need to have 1:1 matching kinks to feel exciting. I do want someone kinky, if your idea of "exploring" is spanking, we might not be a good fit. But if you have a nice little kink list of your own, you enjoy trying new things, you're not judgemental about other kinks, great. That's a pretty good start in my eyes. I am looking for frequent excitement though, I'm not saying all day every day but I have a lot of attention to give and I'm looking for someone who sees that as a good thing, not a chore. I'm also looking for someone I have some physical chemistry with. I don't have a specific type I'm looking for and while I'm perfectly content with online only, I do want to have some attraction to my partner, and you should too! We don't have to exchange pictures immediately attraction is somewhat important to me. Let's make it so we don't have to scroll through these subreddits for days, weeks, months, or do I even dare to say years?

Healthy - This seems like an odd way to describe it but I feel like its a good catch all for both parties having clear expectations of the dynamic and strong communication. It's also a nice why to talk about the general caregiver/mentor/"vibe" I'm looking for. I like to feel like I'm a positive influence on my play partner/little/submissive, whether that's through rules or daily tasks, punishment/reward systems, help with motivation in school, work, eating healthy, working out, "adulting" in general. So while I'm not focused on finding a "little" specifically a lot of those tendencies appeal to me. That's also why I'm posting to agegap. Sure agegaps in general are a bit taboo which inherently makes them exciting, but they also seem to naturally evolve into a bit of a caregiver/mentor dynamic.

What I'm offering: a 33M in the Chicago area who knows what he wants and isn't afraid to put in the time or effort to make it work. I'm educated, professional/career driven, respectful (outside of specific kink play) and over all a reasonably well adjusted adult. I'm nerdy in most senses of the word, hobbies and interests in videogames, board games, fantasy, scifi, science, etc. As well as "nerdy" career in the STEM field. If slightly tall, bearded guys with hairy chests and dad bods are your thing, well you might be in luck! I take decent care of myself, well groomed, dress well, etc.

Anyways, I think that's enough of a wall of text for now. Thanks for reading all the way down to here, which I can safely assume you did, because well, you're reading this sentence.