Have you ever been on a road trip and just got caught by how the horizon unfolds in front of you? How vast the little bit of the world you can perceive really is? I think that really applies to your life. If you only focus on the road, all you'll see is the path. It's when you just look a little bit up and let your peripheral vision open that a major roadway can become a majestic vista.

That's sort of how my life has felt lately. For many years, I was so focused on trying to navigate life's twists and turns that I never got a chance to just take it all in. These last few years though, I looked up..and I have found so much to smile about. I have a job that fills me purpose and the finances to fund my passions. I have family that looks forward to my visits and keeps me in the loop of their lives. I have friends from every diversity, and enjoy the culture they add to my life. Through therapy and healing, I have found an appreciation of my body, my mind, and my soul.

But I know I'm still finding the next level up in my life. Because with all this abundance...the only sensible thing I can think to do is find a partner to invest in all in. Someone who I can invite into my life and see how we can build something brand new together. Something better than what both of us had before. With me knowing I'm a Daddy Dom at heart...that means what I'm looking for is a little to be my partner in this calling.

This post isn't going to be a checklist in what I want in a little. Don't get me wrong, the outfits, the nicknames, the games, the pleasure...the discomfort that highlights the pleasure, I love it all. But that's to share with a person I'm getting to know, and I don't believe it should be an expectation that I should set. As a wise "teacher" named Mr. Feeny once said "When you open yourself up to life's experiences, that's when you truly learn and grow." I don't want you to feel like you have to fit yourself inside a cookie cutter for me...I want to find new things through you that help me grow into a better version of myself and hopefully a better partner for you. However, I will tell you some things I don't mind.

I don't mind if you're a contradiction. Be the optimistic goth girl. Be the cat lady who likes to be trendy. Be the business girly that belts out taylor swift. Having depth isn't something to ever be shameful of.

I don't mind if you're hesitant. Reddit is a hard place to gain trust, and provides enough hurdles as it is. I know that if we meet here, it's nothing that needs to be a whirlwind. Take your time and get comfortable.

I don't mind if you're curious. There will never be a time I'll be upset in you sharing your thoughts and ideas, and the more you're interested in me the more I'll want to delve into you.

I don't mind if you're not just like me. In fact, I would love if you weren't. In "Mating in Captivity" by Esther Perel, she states when two people become the same person, intimacy will suffer. I will want you to be you in whatever connection we have...as long as you tell me all about this person you're becoming.

If this post resonated with you, please feel free to reach out. We can talk all about the more...elaborate parts of what we enjoy about the dynamic then, but I wanted you to see my soul before you found out what we might want to do with our bodies. That beings said, if you don't know how to break the ice, let me give you this.

One of my favorite songs has a line that says "Get a taste of your soul when you hold breath". So take a few seconds...hold your breath...and tell me what you feel when you let it out.

Till then.

-John