Sorry, this is a long post...

There may be some women skulking about in these sub-reddits - and to them, I say hello. However, I suspect the vast majority are men (discounting bots, of course). So, while this post is aimed at a specific female audience, the window remains open for the refferal of a woman known to the male reader(s) - a friend, sister, daughter, or granddaughter even. But, before you do, be sure to read the post in full.

Yes, I am seeking sex. That said, you may find the suggestion of referrals distateful. If you do, I respectfully apologize for the offense.

But...some individuals, some friend-groups, and some families have less puritanical attitudes toward sex. Those are the individuals I'm speaking to. Individuals who see sex as healthy - when approached honestly, respectfully, and consensually. This isn't an incestuous offer. It's simply that some among you may know an open-minded and sexually active woman who is open to older guys - a woman who may not frequent this sub-reddit. Ideally though, that woman will have found this post on her own and will respond directly.

In all likelihood I'm leaving the area at the end of the summer for work (though I enjoy it here). That means I'm seeking a summer connection - one-off meetings aren't preferred, but could work.

I'll outline the basics about who I'm hoping for in a moment. But first I'd like to talk about consent and empathy. Sure, some might argue that it's an assumed conversation. It shouldn't be. No one is owed sex. No one is owed gratification, affection, or attention (male, female, or other). If someone agrees to engage in sex (consent), they also have to right to stop (rescind consent) - though, in saying that, they have the responsibility to communicate so clearly. If you're not comfortable with saying so (both go and stop), this wouldn't work out.

If a referral takes place, that individual will have ample opportunity to discuss consent. If there is even the hint that a quid pro quo or untoward motivation is at play, the session ends (read: grooming, compulsion, or pressure from another). If the participant isn't there because they want to be, I don't want to be there either.

This is an AgeGap scenario. A 40 year old male, seeking a younger woman. I'm not looking to date or court a younger woman. I'm not looking to 'keep' her or marry her. This is, at its heart, a summer distraction. This is (95%) about sex - I have no interest in deception or in playing three-card-monty with euphemisms.

That said, I am wired for monogamy. If a relationship already exists, I'm not looking to be a third. I'm not ENM. If that works for you/her...all the best. Stay safe; stay healthy. If you/she has a violent or obsessive ex (husband, boyfriend, lover, girlfriend, etc.)...I don't want to live out Scott Pilgrim's dilemma - no one is worth that much headache or work. No one.

As for AgeGaps: if it offends you, I respectfully apologize for the offense. But, maturity is an individual metric. If a woman can die for her country, I'm ok with treating her like an adult. Which means: respectfully. I'm also ok in having sex with her if she is mature about it and expresses informed autonomous consent.

If, during the summer, you/she find a real relationship, I will 100% wish you/her well and pray for health and happiness. I wouldn't hold anyone back from finding a true loving partner.

Which, if it wasn't obvious, means whomever consents isn't going to be treated or seen as an object. You/she are an autonomous human being worthy of empathy and respect - not for what you're doing or have done, but because people deserve decency, compassion, and to be treated like they're people. That doesn't mean I'm looking to love someone. I'm not. Though, engaging emotionally, intellectually, and physically is the ideal. This is why a one-time session is less desirable - it's harder to get truly comfortable.

Kindness isn't toxic. Be kind, and be open to kindness from others.

If it wasn't obvious, I'm NOT into BDSM, pain-play, cnc, or humiliation. (I'm also not into anal play - giving or receiving, just not my thing - consider accordingly.)

Keep in mind, I am a hetero, suburban, white, cis-male and I'm looking for white, cis-females. That isn't to say I see others as less valuable to society, less respectable as people, less deserving of human decency, less in need of rights and protections. Hardly. Those who fall outside my search, due to age, race, creed, body type, etc., have my 100% support in finding love (or pure, consensual, hedonistic pleasure). We each have our preferences. Respect to all.

Ok. So, who am I looking for?

• Age: 18 to 20s (preferably 18 or 19)
• Build: Petite to Average
• Gender: cis-Female
• Diseases: STI/STD free
• Smoker: Non-Smoker
• Drugs: No (420 maybe)
• Compensation: None (no pay2play)
• Contraception: preferred (condoms worn upon request)

I have never had an STI/STD and never want to. I expect you/she to be the same in this regard.

If you/she are comfortable with it, and have access to PlanB (or similar) I'd love to creampie. But, in light of the current political climate, I respect a woman's concern(s) - well, I respected them before too, but now I'm furious on their behalf. I've considered a vasectomy, but have elected to refrain (in case I meet a woman I'd like to have a child with). Which is to say, I'm not looking to have children, but the Darwinian desire to finish inside is a strong one. Where that happens (inside or out) is an important conversation to have in advance - if you can't have that conversation, it's best not to reply to this post. Let's avoid unwanted people, shall we?

Lastly, this is not a paying gig. It's ok if you're a professional, an OnlyFans performer, or a semi-pro SugarBaby. I get it, the economy is stacked against you (against 95% of us really). But, I'm not a client. Don't get me wrong, sex work needs to be legitimized and sex workers deserve civil protection (for mental and physical health - their own and that of their communities). Hell...if you're a pro (maybe even a semi-pro) you probably make more than me in my best year. Good on you. But, I'm not looking to take care of someone's bills or tuition.

Ok. If you think I'm looking for a girl like you (or one you know)...let me know. Send a pic too. Attraction is subjective, I won't be hurt is you walk away. If I walk away, it doesn't reduce your value as a human either.

First meeting is always in a public space (for mutual safety). Personal info is discouraged until after that meeting.