If you know where the title of my ad comes from, bonus points to you.

I have some experience with BDSM/kink and find the dominant role in the bedroom deeply satisfying, though I’ve yet to fully explore this dynamic with a quality partner. I think there is a deeper experience of intimacy in d/s relationships because the level of trust involved goes beyond commonplace bedroom activities. I am very turned on by power and control in the bedroom but not so much outside of it. I love degradation and inflicting pain, and find a subs suffering for my pleasure to be deeply erotic. I am open to experimentation, and would love to create a rich and fulfilling experience with someone who is submissive, whatever that may be. I am not normally a controlling person and I believe, overall, in an equal partnership where we both get our needs met.

My pleasure as a dom comes partly from knowing you are deriving pleasure from what we do together, even as you are suffering for it. I love spanking, slapping, light bondage, cnc, name calling, hair pulling, spitting. I love being rough. I can be quite sadistic, but I always provide excellent after care. I would adore a sub who took what I can dish out. I also like daddy/daughter role-play and am interested in possibly exploring something more along the lines of master and slave, but that’s an area where I have no experience. Perhaps we could work that out together if it interests us.

Aside from sex, I’m very affectionate and love to show my adoration to a worthy partner. I believe in and practice safe, sane, and consensual sex always. I do not accept submissives who outright say that I can do anything I want, because that is never true, and can simply be unhealthy and dangerous. I am looking to cultivate a long-term relationship where we can both grow together, not simply use you for sex in whatever way I want just to get myself off. I want the BDSM aspect to be part of the relationship, not all of it.

Outside of that, I am a fit, alternative type, I have tattoos, work as an artist and designer. I aspire to be an author. I write music. My life is all about creativity. I’m a very active person. I like to take care of myself, I read a lot, I’ve taught myself Spanish and aspire to learn German as well, I have a deep love of language. I am endlessly curious and passionate and have a deep love of life. I love alternative and electronic music and prefer that you do too. I'm into classic films, art house, film noir, surrealism, literature, philosophy, psychology, quantum and astrophysics, Latin culture, travel, and living life as the adventure that it is.

As for what I am looking for I have a strong preference for women between 25 and 40. I also prefer that you are in shape or willing to get into shape, which I am happy to help you do if you are truly dedicated. I have a strong preference for alternative types...goth especially, but I do also like the girl-next-door type. I'm fairly open, I just need to be attracted to you. I definitely have a thing for a nice booty and smaller breasts. I am open to all races. It would be best if you are located in the state of Minnesota, but surely we can work something out if you aren't. Please be certain you are into the same things before contacting me. I want a sub who knows what she wants and needs and can communicate that. I don't want to guess and I don't read minds.

I am a serious person and I know my value. I believe in good communication and solid, well-defined boundaries. I don’t play games with people and I don’t tolerate them being played with me. I’m looking for someone to develop a rich and complex bond with, someone who is emotionally mature and understands that love is an action and a choice. I am looking for someone I am attracted to who is good for me, who elevates my life. If that is you, you can be assured I am capable of doing the same for you.

At the moment I am buying a home where I live in Minnesota so if this were to work you would have to relocate if it came to that. Just so you know up front. I prefer that we take our time talking online or by phone and get to know each other. Once we are both comfortable and have a connection established we can meet and see how that goes. I intend to take things slowly before we get too involved in each others lives. If all of this sounds good to you let's connect and see if the chemistry is there.