About me, I'm an older M living just outside of London, UK. Separated, living alone can host. Retired with no money cares. I'm not the woulda shoulda coulda type. I'm a reader but don't read enough quality books. I love spending time with my friends, I have some real weirdo friends and some very erudite sophisticated ones too. I have just come out of an 8 year relationship which was amazing, really amazing. With any relationship there are highs and lows but the highs were head and shoulders above the lows and so much more consistent. She dropped me... we are still great friends but I know now that it won't rekindle. I tried. I'm very bummed about it. Gonna move on. I travel. A lot. I was in Australasia this month, India last month, was in the middle east/Africa for January.

My partner liked me to take control, preferred answering questions to asking.. a lot.. I was her shoulder and the stability in her life. She was open about that and that is what she wanted. I am happy with that kind of relationship, I appeared to do a lot of the work, but actually she effused wonderful waves of love and fun, an endearing eagerness. I'm happy with this sort of relationship again. I run, I cycle but not just for physical health but mental well being too. I love my food probably more than I should, so I'm not slim, but I'm not fat either.

You have what I consider to be my qualities, and you can see the qualities I am comfortable with. Don't be weird, but you can be a little crazy. Looking for someone to travel a lot with & do more weekends away with etc! So much of the U.K. (world) I haven’t seen which feels a waste.

If you think we might get along please send me a message, no age rejected. Not a big fan of dyed red/blue /pink (insert colour) hair or tats/piercings, but that's not a deal breaker. I'm not in a rush, we have plenty of time to chat, get to know. If you are anxious, awkward...... if you are the "I'm not sure, why would he want me" type then DM me you are just perfect I can take it from there. If you are a lurker who never posts DM me, that's what you are lurking for. If you have never contacted anyone online and are terrified, worried it could all go wrong, worried someone whom you don't want to may find out (they won't) DM me. If you are super shy, super anxious, worried you can't hold a conversation.... just DM me .

Not the first time I've posted, so if you've seen this before and messaged its likely (probably a certainty) that you didn't take any notice of the bit about chatting. If you message me and I message you back....it has to be a two way conversation for it to work ! Its not a short term relationship I'm looking for and its not all about sex.