When people talk about a "connection," what they mean is emotional/mental intimacy. The thing about intimacy is that you can't have it without vulnerability. You can't not share yourself and expect a connection at the same time. Vulnerability is required. And my experience has shown that women, being understandably guarded as they must be online, do not allow themselves to be vulnerable. That's because you cannot have true vulnerability without trust. And what reason does a woman online have to trust any man she comes across here? Men have ghosted women, they send unwelcomed sexts, they often cannot hold a conversation about anything deep or meaningful. Often this comes from a lack of respect men seem to have for the women they speak to. So there is no trust and no respect. If intimacy is the goal (and it always is with me), then we have the following equation:

Trust respect vulnerability = intimacy. A connection, if you prefer.

Now, to anyone reading this, tell me... how often have you seen this equation fulfilled during your online dating endeavors? How many Reddit chats have you suffered through that led nowhere?

Right here is a man who is profoundly in need of this sort of intimacy. Right here is a man who knows EXACTLY what he wants (and the thing about knowing what you want is you're likely to recognize it when you see it). Right here is a man who believes in forever and is looking for it (even here on Reddit, because I'm also a man who leaves no stone unturned). Those who talk to me will find me unusual. I say this only because other women I've spoken to have said so. I nevertheless invite you to try me

If you're thinking this was written by AI, know that I'm a writer by trade and very accustomed to expressing myself.

FYI: Any DMers will be subjected to a few questions up front :)