Hello, internet stranger. Thanks for checking out this completely unsolicited hot take about married guys from me, a married guy.

I’m certain you’ve heard the cliche that “all the good ones are taken”, but for guys in their late 30’s to early 50’s, that’s pretty much universally true. Sure, some of the good ones are divorced, and sadly some of the older good ones are widowed, but there are literally no “good” 40yo single guys who have never been married and have just been waiting for decades for the right one to come along.

I say this as a successful 40yo married guy with a lot of successful 35-50yo single guy friends who have never been married. And I can say with 100% certainty there is a very good reason each and every one of them are single.

“But certainly Jeff, my single 48yo manager at Chili’s is a good guy” you are surely thinking. Nope. Not even Jeff. And I mean no offense to Jeff. I’m sure he’s a great manager, but there’s a reason he is still single after almost 5 decades of being alive. The fact of the matter is Jeff is broken, and you aren’t going to fix him.

What about the guy who has just been waiting his whole life to meet “the one” you ask? Sadly he is fictional. He’s the male version of the female model who is attracted to men based solely on their personality and doesn’t care about looks.

So what’s a girl to do? Honestly, wait. Marriages sadly end. If a married guy is posting on here, his marriage probably isn’t super awesome. If a married guy tries to talk to you, ask a lot of questions to gauge how close his marriage is to ending. Have they talked about separation? Are they sleeping in separate bedrooms? Most good guys will answer that honestly.

Oh and one more sad fact. Not all married guys are good. In fact, most probably aren’t. Lots of married guys want to stay married AND have a younger girlfriend. Those guys are usually sad losers who will never leave their wives. Stay away from those guys.

Anyway, TLDR: most attractive, intelligent, successful older men are married. don’t automatically hate on married guys. Some are good guys who married the wrong person and are on here chatting as a first step, or an eight step, to leaving. Some might be halfway out the door and could use your help to get out the rest of the way.

But for most of us this is all just fantasy anyway. Like the fantasy of the hot 40yo rich guy who just hasn’t found the one yet. Or the fantasy of the 22yo college student who doesn’t care that you’re married and actually thinks it’s kind of hot.