Hi,
I am the kind of person that enjoys hugs more than kissing, and cuddling anytime we watch movies, play video games, or listen to music together.

My ex used to do this thing where she would use my chest as a pillow, and she would bury her face in my chest like how a cat rubs its scent on you. Then we would wrap the sheets over us and she could just sigh and disassociate. She always said it made her feel safe.

I just want more of that.
That and head scratches, back rubs, gentle caressing (for both of us). That, plus night-drives for snacks while blasting vaporwave/synthwave/synthpop, urban exploration. Movie nights (both in-bed, on a couch, or in theater. Music nights (record shopping, live events, stand-up shows, listening in bed).

Love Language etc:
Physical Touch
Quality Time
Words of Affirmation

Music:
I like IDM/Experimental Techno, Breakcore, Surf Rock, Quiet Storm / Motown, 80s Synthpop, Yacht Rock, Synthwave, Vaporwave.

Movies/TV:
I like Comedy, and Sci-Fi, (specifically, Sci-Fi, about Robots, AI, VR, Dystopia, Dreams, Memories, Time Travel... and less about Aliens, Space Travel, Ghosts, Vampires, Zombies, Horror, Anime).

Radio/Podcasts/Youtube.
I am an "Oldtime Radio" buff (think radio Dramas like Dragnet, Hitchhikers Guide, etc..).
Beau of the Fifth Column, Big Joel, Legal Eagle, VeryTallBart, BadGear, ContraPoints, PDS, YMH, Chapo Traphouse.

I'm not materialistic. I don't care about gifts, money or status.
I do not have a "wanderlust". I do enjoy road-trips, and night drives, especially with a partner. But travel is not my #1 way to relax and wind-down.

Relationship Style.
It should be noted that, while I'm ideally looking for a long-term relationship, I'm not looking to get married, have kids (I've had a vasectomy), or move-in together.

I am not opposed to age gaps (me being older, you being younger) In fact, I would prefer to date someone in their late twenties/early thirties.

I want to be a shoulder to cry on, a chest to lay on. I want to be your big cuddly Teddy Bear. Maybe I can be your chauffeur if you don't have a car or don't like driving. Maybe you just went through a divorce or a breakup (like I went through a breakup 1.5 years ago) and you just want a kind and physically affectionate guy who is fun to be around, non-aggressive, reliable, emotionally attentive, patient, optimistic and can be the Friend you need when you have had a hard day at work, or school, or just life in general.
I want to alleviate any loneliness you have, and in doing so, alleviate my loneliness in the process.

Personality:
I'm extremely chill.
Imagine if Jeff Lebowski (The Big Lebowski) was combined with the geekiness of Kevin Flynn from Tron/Tron Legacy The humor of someone like Mitch Hedberg, Andy Richter, or Norm Macdonald.

Politically , I'm a leftist (I'm not a liberal, because I feel like "The Center" has been pulled so far right at this point, that anyone willing to "Reach Across the aisle" is just wasting their time, and falling for all the bad-faith arguments and scams that the Right is dragging them into).

Black Lives matter.
Gay/Trans Rights are Human Rights.
Healthcare is a human right.
Women deserve autonomy over their bodies.
The workers should control and profit from the means of production.
Religion has no place in politics.

In Summary
I am not overly ambitious.
I work a maximum of 40 hours per week... and no more.

I generally wear Dark T-shirts, Dickies pants, and a hoody. My weight fluctuates. When I get to 195, I go Keto, and exercise to get my weight back down, but I'm not a gym rat.

I think to really sum myself up...
I do the bare minimum that's required to maintain my health and my financial situation.
I would probably consider myself an "underachiever".
I am not materialistic, and money and wealth are not a driving force in my motivations.

It seems like every time I go on social media, or a dating app, all I see are people in a "Grindset Mindset", or people that are cosplaying as such.

Everyone wants to play-up their gym routine, and how vegan they are, and drone on about how "active" their lifestyle is. Everyone has "wanderlust", and an "entrepreneurial spirit"... and so on... and so on...

Frankly, this is just not the kind of person I am looking to be, and though I am certain that many of these people are kind, and loving, and great partners... I have found that I can only date someone of that mindset for a short while before they become restless and decide they would be better off with someone else... or they become judgmental and begin trying to nudge me towards, or in some cases aggressively demand that I, "get on their level."

You might be reading this and thinking "Oh, he's looking for an emotional support, because he's lonely and sad and depressed." And, while I am lonely, and a bit sad as a result, I am not looking for someone to "fix" me.

I am actually looking to be YOUR emotional support animal.
I don't want to go down a "manosphere" rabbit hole (as that entire space is pretty toxic), but one aspect of the dialogue surrounding a man's place in the modern world that I do resonate with is this...

A man needs to feel useful. Specifically, a man needs to feel like they are providing something for their partner, that they aren't looking to someone else for.

We've already established that I'm not super ambitious nor materialistic.
I'll probably never be able to financially provide for two people, on my single income.
I am not even looking to move-in together, have kids, or get married.

But what I do have a surplus of, is free time, and the potential for love and affection. (And I know, from experience, that the potential isn't theoretical, I have been in long-term relationships, and I have been in-love before).

I think that's enough writing for now.
I hope to hear from you.