I've had this and am looking for this again. It's that connection that grows over time both on a mental and physical level with one woman. Two people fond of each other develop this kindness and trust with each other. True openness develops between them. There's this strong mental connection within the boundaries of an affair. There's strong affection between each other. Tenderness. Sweetness.

This openness translates physically with each working to understand what brings about that mutual desire for each other, from one another. This allows the woman to pursue how she wants to express herself, what helps her calm her mind and push the worries of the day away to not think about anything other than that moment and the man next to her. It grows to be hot, intense and approaching the boundaries set not just as barriers but as goals to maximize the intensity between two people and passion for each other.

But know this is a pursuit and a dance. Its intention is the allowance of expression with the aim of satisfying each other with no stress to achieve this each and every time. That allows the freedom to not worry and allows each to just be each other to each other. There may be a passionate movie session under the covers to balance this out or the opportunity to make out in the car. Maybe it's dominant with a man in control leading you down a path to where you want to go. Maybe it's tender and soft and slow with growing pace and intensity. It's not to be judged. Just expressed and accepted.

I'm a well educated, smart and driven individual who wants to balance that pace with slowing down time and getting lost with another. This is not meant to disrupt current attachments. Discretion is critical.

I'm looking for someone who knows how to engage a man, converse and be there for each other - attention here, a compliment there. Knows when to touch a man's cheek to bring him back. Who knows that the time spent together is special and treats it as such.

Physically, I'm tall, with a nice head of hair, dark blue eyes and a nice smile. I look much younger than my age. I lift heavy things and take care of myself. I don't drink often except for a good martini or glass of wine when the situation offers such. I'm clever, positive, don't get shaken. I will like to hear you laugh. I'm open minded sexually to how you like to express yourself. To explore those things which trigger desire deep within you. I love a woman who looks and feels like a woman with full breasts and the self confidence that comes from knowing how to take care of herself and be a woman. I'm looking for someone cute or attractive, but not a model. There has to be physical chemistry.

I'm open minded on age to a degree.

Please reach out if this is what you see as well. Introduce yourself. Please, only the greater Chicago area. Daytime availability is best but evenings can work. I'm clean and you need to be as well. Let's not increase unnecessary risk. Truly, the reason I stop chatting with someone is their inability to converse, show interest and ask questions. I'm looking for someone who understands the mental is far more important than the physical. I look forward to learning more about you. If your account seems suspect, then I may ask for verification. I've learned reddit can be a weird place.

If this post is live, then know I’m still searching.