Summer in Chicago. So many people out and about. So many things to do. Festivals. Patios. Food. The lakefront.

But... something just isn't clicking for me this summer. I can't put my finger on what it. Maybe work sucks? Maybe friends are getting old and drifting away? Maybe I'm a little complacent, a little too comfortable, or a little depressed? Or maybe I'm really just missing a good, consistent, intelligent, available, exciting companion to keep me on my toes, spend time with me, and connect with?

Am I looking for something long term? Short term? Just friends? Just physical? We'll that's the thing. I'm open to any and all. I don't believe in closing the door on any outcome as long as it is organic and feels eight. I think it's stilly to make up our minds before we get to know each other. Why rule out possibilities? Like if we are a great fit for a relationship then that's excellent. But if we're just getting friend vibes, or summer fling vibes, or cuddle buddy vibes, or one hot/steamy night vibes then THAT'S FINE TOO.

Putting labels on things or pre-determining what course this takes is dumb. Let's get to know each other (in person!) and go with the flow. Let's go to some shows, hit some jazz clubs, sit on the lakefront until way after dark, spend late nights on the couch, go out to brunch, stand in line for overpriced ice cream, go kayaking, plan a road trip, make out in a movie theater, etc. I'm open to ideas!

I guess you could say I identify with some of the characteristics of a sapiosexual (attracted to intelligence) or demisexual (attracted to emotional bonds / reciprocation). Though I think those terms are sort of stupid because WHO WOULDN'T BE ATTRACTED TO SMART PEOPLE or actively seeking the excitement and connection that comes a strong emotional bond, right?

What I am absolutely looking for:

Intelligence, curiousity, emotional availability, logistical availability, top notch communication skills, a certain level of maturity, someone with a great smile and knows how to make me smile, but also a major plus if you can empathize with depression or loneliness and isolation. You can be an introvert or an extrovert. But at least have hobbies, interests and passions. I want to find someone that I can meet up with spontaneously but also plan ahead and spend fun weekends together, or evening activities, or maybe even play hooky with and ditch work together if we're both sick of everything and want to get away for a day.

You need to be in the city (preferably) or near suburbs. Understand basic geography and transportation. If you're one of those people that don't know what neighborhood you are in, don't take public transit, or don't drive, this is NOT going to work. (Seriously, might sound crazy but a ton of women in Chicago seem to not know how to get out or go anywhere. Blows my mind.)

Age is not a big deal to me if the chemistry is right. 18 is fine, as long as you are mature and nearby. Also, someone older 40 might work too if you have a youthful vibe 😎

Also, don't be a Republican. Science is real, racism is bad, guns kill.

Me: I'm 34M, white, single, college educated, gainfully employed, intelligent, extroverted with a busy social life, play tons of rec sports (mostly softball this time of year), and many hobbies (musician, longboarder, trivia nerd, etc).

I've been single for a long time. I'm unfailingly loyal, emotionally and logistically available, appreciate humor and I'm insanely attracted to intelligence, ambition, and opinions.

Looks wise, I'm totally average. I don't look like Brad Pitt and I don't look like Shrek. 5'9, dark hair, green eyes, beard, muscular/thick/chubbyish.

Let's put it this way, I'm not a boring person. And I'm not the kind of guy most of the people in my life would ever expect to be feeling lonely and on reddit looking for a human connection. But alas, here I am.

If this sounds interesting to you, shoot me a message with some REAL INFORMATION: 1. Your age 2. Your location 3. What you do 4. What about my post seems interesting to you 5. What are some of your hobbies and interests?

No men. No trans. Nobody looking for money. No taken/poly women.