I’ve recently realized what I’m really looking for: everything.

Intense passion which cools over time into a sublime love, warm and stable, occasionally rising into the flames we were born from. I want my 40s to be filled with the intimacy I never had in my 30s. Enjoy being the object of romance and a little bit of chivalry.

Intellectual curiosity which is unquenchable. You don’t have to be a PhD, but you should have one or more areas which you love going deep into and enjoy learning about the world as it unfolds in front of us. A penchant for wordplay, wit, and banter is welcome. You speak your mind, even assertively. You don’t mind a good debate.

Emotional maturity. EQ is as important as IQ, maybe even more so. For us to get what we want will require an incredible amount of tact and the ability to navigate complex emotional waters.

Have a place in your life for both feminism and traditional gender roles. I will contribute to all areas of our lives and carry my weight, but you should take comfort in some of the traditional roles a woman occupies and relish your femininity. If you’re career driven, I will support you wholeheartedly and will ask you to give nothing up.

You are a driven individual, whatever your goal, whether it’s finding a mate or pursuing the next stage of your career or preparing the next event you’re hosting in your home.

Believe in equal rights for all and be intolerant of intolerance.

About me: I’m a father of young children in a fatally flawed marriage. An ambitious and established man who nonetheless is willing to sacrifice career for family when necessary. A passionate polymath who enjoys getting silly and laughing at the world when the alternative is to cry.

There is an expiration date on my marriage. When, I have no idea. It could be years. If you’re comfortable with this, please reach out to me.