So my (31F) girlfriend (53F) and I have been seeing one another for about 3 months now. She was actually my downstairs neighbor for 3 years up until I recently moved to a different apartment complex but we never really talked other than a hi/bye basis. Not long after I moved she reached out to me and what started as just hanging out, drinking a few beers, smoking weed, etc evolved into sex and sooner or later feelings developed and I asked her to be my gf. I've honestly never dated an older woman before and I told her this is a first for me but that I don't care about the age difference at all because we get along so well, have similar interests, like the same music, shows, etc. The issue that we seem to face a lot is the fact that I'm an introvert and I enjoy my space and having alone time. I've told her this many times and she always acts like she understands...but the smallest inconvinence arrises and the next thing I know shes getting upset with me because I don't want to spend more than 2 or 3 days out of the week with her and I get accused of "not loving her" or lectured on how people are supposed to be in a relationship. We both work and recently she started a new job with long hours...I kind of became a bit relieved when she started this new job with long hours because I thought maybe then she'd focus more on that and I'd get my alone time....guess I was wrong? For example: two nights ago I had a night off where she worked....we didn't make plans to do anything and I figured she'd be tired from working all day and would just rather go home and go to bed. I just happened to be asleep, but woke up next morning to 25 missed calls from her...when I called back she immediately starts shouting at me, telling me I don't care about her, how she pounded on my door for like 20 mins....bla bla bla. Meanwhile I had NO IDEA. She'll start yelling at me and I just automatically shut down and don't say anything because she won't let me get a word in edgewise. I've tried to tell her before that she comes off as manipulative almost like she thinks because she's older than me that she can treat me like one of her kids. Everytime I've said this though she claims she's not doing anything wrong and "this is how relationships work". She's always trying to tell me that my approach is wrong. I've never had this issue before with anyone else I've dated but it's starting to make me really resent her. When it's good it's good but I constantly feel like I have to walk on eggshells around her....I can't say certain things like commenting on a female character in a movie or TV show without her getting immature and jealous over it. For instance: We were watching "Suicide Squad" one night and she said something about wanting to be Harley Quinn for Halloween or something and asked if I thought it was a good idea. My response was "yeah babe that'd be totally hot" which flipped a switch somewhere because instantly she starts drilling into me asking me if I find her attractive (a fictional character in the movie). I was honest and said yeah I think she's an attractive woman but I don't see how it's bad to think an actor or an actress in a film that I have no chance with anyways is so bad? Plenty of people admire celebrities and movie stars I thought that was normal? I guess I also thought dating someone outside of my age group would be easier because she's more mature....and I mean she is but I can't help but think she just totally wants to control me. 😐 I told my best friend all of this and he says I should run before it gets worse because she sounds crazy....I guess just trying to give her the benefit of the doubt.