There's too much worrying about dating and finding a compatible match on here rather than worrying about whether you're sexually compatible with a person. In my years of dating before I got married, having sex was the number one priority not just for the sake of getting laid, but to know what you want out of yourself and your potential partner. In my experience, I'd found that people are more honest with themselves when it comes to sex vs what they put out in the dating work. You have to be - you're giving yourself to someone else in a really intimate way. I can understand the flipside of because this is such an intimate act you should know who you're going to bed with, and that might work for some but to be perfectly honest in a world of internet hookups at your fingertips, using sex as a dimension of whether or not it would work out with someone quite frankly makes it easier.

This was actually a point of importance for me, and I found out sooner than later if it was going to work out with a girl if we had sex early on in the dating process. Apart from the one virgin I dated, being able to sleep with a girl within the first or second date let me know more or less what I was going in to. The bullshit of what you say over drinks is much different than what you can actually be honest about during pillowtalk. If the thought of this makes you feel insecure, maybe think about where those insecurities come from and if it's something you want to change about yourself. If not, more power to you. This was just my process which led me to my wife and on our 6th year of marriage.

This is also your way of potentially exploring sides to your sexuality that you may have either been too shy or too afraid to dive in to. Maybe you're into some kinks, or want to explore group sex, or something a bit more out of the norm. Who gives a shit, you might as well see what you're okay with and what you're not. Then when you find the person who you click with you can be more open and honest about your interests. It adds a whole new level to the relationship.

My advice to you youngbloods - sleep with as many people as you can, figure out what works for you sexually, and don't be afraid to be open about it. Be safe, be respectful, but be honest too with each other and yourselves.