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Both Desi men and Desi women face a decent amount of gendered racism (that is, racism directed towards them due to being a Desi man or a Desi woman specifically)
This obviously manifests in different ways relating to undesirability, rejection, stereotypes, fetishization, etc. etc. Both are real and valid
That being said, I feel like there's been a decent number of posts or comments which immediately start trying to say "well we have it worse" or compare "how bad it actually is". Usually this is accompanied by accusations against Desis of the other gender
I feel like this attitude is wholly unhelpful. Gender wars are fucking stupid, and turning gender into some sort of oppression olympics is even dumber.
So uh stop doing it please. Racism is racism, there is no need to get to the bottom of "who has it worse"
It's not about who has it worse but it manifests in different ways between genders.
Since fetishization happens anyway, is it wrong to make a profit from it? There are Indian women on onlyfans and pornhub who play up ethnicity. Guys too could and straight man playing gay for hire is popular among gay dudes and playing up ethnicity will really help.
I'd rather drain money from a horny guy and have him take his race fantasy out on me instead of a civilian Indian woman.
In a way, I interact with them and they ask about Indian culture and I end up educating them and addressing stereotypes. It works in my favor because after confronting stereotypes, the guy is more intrigued.
Sometimes I faked a thicker accent to make more $.
I wear a saree over a skimpy bikini when I'm performing and both desis and non-desis love it. The customers who pay me the most are race fetishers. They're usually respectful and don't make it weird. Let them enjoy and let them pay me. I experienced weirder things like a guy wanting to smell my armpits and willing to pay extra money for it or guy paying me $500 to kick him in the nuts. Strippers hear everything.
Since it already happens, why not monetize it?
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