Long story short. My parents were toxic. Dad narcissistic alcoholic addict and abusive. Mom has issues with some mental illness and I suspect borderline personality. She's horrible and hard person. Mom was emotionally abusive and even minimized my dad's abuse. Growing up was constant drama between my parents and me and my siblings feeling caught in between.

Dad ran away and left us. He cut me off when I told him that he cannot get drunk when visiting me. He's living with a younger woman who's taking advantage of him.

I feel bad for my mom as she's gone through a lot. But sometimes I'm frustrated with her because it does not make it ok for her to mistreat me. She's the classic bpd boomer who refuses to be held accountable and it's constantly drama, negativity and I'm drained from her. So I figured out a way to keep boundaries by having a shallow relationship that has no substance or closeness as that's what she's capable of. She is obsessed with my life and nosy. But no support. I pretend that I have nothing going on. I chose others to confide in.

My siblings cut off all ties with my mother. And want nothing to do with her. So it's just me.

I'm now wondering about her when she's older. I shudder to think that arranging funeral costs and taking care of her will all be on me. I'm also a single mother.

If you're in a broken relationship or estranged from your parents, how have you dealt with this?