Bringing this up because of the post about the woman whose partner slept with 30 people. A lot of comments talking about how a high body count is a turn off, is problematic, etc. Obviously in that thread, the problem was the boyfriend being controlling more than anything but some were talking about how a high body count is bad for a variety of reasons. I stopped scrolling after a minute.

I’m curious how other desis view this. Sex is generally taboo and not something that is talked about within the community. I grew up in a Muslim household (but am agnostic) in NYC. Finding a relationship is super difficult but sex is pretty easy to come by. I’ve also turned down quite a few people for sex because especially as I’ve gotten older (I’m in my late 20s,) I’ve become a lot more picky.

I’m a man and I’ve slept with 12 women. I don’t really think that’s a lot and I feel like that’s a pretty average number for most people. Half were probably one night stands that I didn’t pursue further because it wasn’t enjoyable. The others were consistent fwb situations. I’ve never had an STD (knock on wood)

I also don’t expect my future partner to be a virgin - much like a lot of other Pakistani men. Experience matters but I don’t like giving it up to just anyone - and I wouldn’t want my partner to be that way either.

Does body count really matter? I feel like this topic is kind of relevant considering how taboo sex is and how this entire sub complains about sex and dating and all of that stuff. Is the perspective different for desis than it is other ethnic groups?