I am a mom of 2 (ages 6 and 2) and an IT director at a start up company.

I knew going into this role that I wouldn’t be able to hire any headcount in 2023 but holy shit I don’t know if I can keep going. I am working 12 hours a day every day. I am in meetings from 8:30-5, with no breaks most days. Then my kids are home from 5-8. And as soon my kids go to bed I have to start working again. I get pings all weekend long.

This was my first time in a director role so it was definitely an advancement for me. But I am required to be strategic and then also the only person in the weeds. I haven’t even heard if I’ll get budgeted headcount for 2024. I feel like I won’t even make it to the end of the year.

I don’t have the bandwidth to look for another job. My 2 year old is a stage 5 clinger. When he’s home he has to be on top of me or I have to hold him. I’ve resorted to even just holding him during dinner otherwise he just screams and screams for me.

I am really mentally struggling with my kids and how demanding my job is. I feel like something has to give.