I will start it off with the fact that my husband is a great dad to our 8 week old, but he said something to me last night that really struck a nerve. When I told him that we need to start a routine since I am going back to work in two weeks I would like him to get up at 5 or 5;30am to be with our son so I can either workout or go to work early. He falls asleep on the couch at 8-9pm every night and gets a solid 9-10 hrs of sleep. Where I get maybe 6 hours on a good night.

His first concern was that he loses an hour of sleep and responded with "you don't need as much sleep as I do..." To him I said "I didn't get the choice and had to suck it up and go on about my day."

He had to go back to work after one week of our son being born and I had 10 weeks of paid leave, so I didn't mind taking on 90% of the newborn role.... including the night feedings, cleaning the house daily, grocery shopping, and cooking homemade meals every night. But now that I have to go back to my career job, I expect him to sacrifice himself a bit so I can resume my life too. It wasn't a fight that we had, but I told him to really consider how I feel and we will talk about it tomorrow.

I have a feeling that I made this newborn phase way too easy for him and now it is time for a reality check. Anyone else feel the same? How did your relationship/schedule change when you went back to work?