I need help from men (and those who identify as men, and f*k it women too) to help my cis boyfriend.

BACKSTORY 📖

• BF had construction job for 3.5 years; he was a construction manager, just below project manager, small company; low voltage

• multiple pay raises and 2 promotions (BF was already experienced in this feild).

• 🎄Christmas time 2021 annual employee evaluation; passed with flying colors, with some improvements points, nothing really serious, just how to talk to the office people.

• pay raise of $4🥳

• Company also signs a contract to start a HUGE project, bigger than anything they have done before. All hands on deck, even though they have 12-15 other projects in process. Plus phase 1 of the new project has minor job responsibilities that are outside the companies normal tasks; i.e. dry wall, instalation, painting, etc. (Reminder company mainly works in low voltage).👨‍🔧

• This project is working on a well known Hotel, roughly 17 stories, next to one of the busiest and biggest airports in the entire nation

• *Reference most of the jobs that have been completed have, at max, 3-4 stories, and are typically not hotels; small stores, commercial buildings, strip mall stores.

• BF tried to juggle🤹‍♂️ them all because that is his job

• BF tells boss valid complaints😤; i.e. under staffed, unrealistic deadline (x things need to be done by the end of the year; when realistically they needed 2 weeks after the new year, and y things need to be completed by the superbowl (2 months time; BF noted that his former company wanted to get 9-12 months of things done in 3 months time, and the timeline was sped up because the superbowl was being held in that town, with the town's home team playing), not guys right for the job,need over time, and boss (project manager) says "just deal with it".🤷‍♂️

• OT gets approved so now BF (and coworkers) are going from working 4 days a week, 10 hour shifts, to 5 days a week 12 hour shifts.💪

• Company hires two new guys, coincidentally the same week that two regulars guys call out for Covid.

• 🥂New Years rolls around and bonuses are sent out 1 week later than usual. BF gets less money that hos coworkers, who are evidently lower management than him.

• Jan 2022, gets covid, but still has to work.🤢 BF's boss keeps BF away from big hotel project and tells BF to follow up on the 12-15 other jobs that are still in progress.

• The following Monday BF gets fired 🚫👷‍♂️because "the company (aka the project Manger and the Compant owner) do not believe that my BF and them are agreeing on work performance and job duties and responsibilities (after wards realizing it meant that the boss man did not like how my BF was telling him valid complaints on how to work more efficiently).

• pause here and recap✍️

• 3.5 years/ multiple promotions/recent pay raise/lower bonus that previous years AND from co workers/ blindsided by being fired right after Chrismas and getting Covid.

• Fast forward 6 months later (present-ish day)

• BF gets a call from former coworker who he worked with closely

• Coworker made/makes $7/hour less than BF at the time BF was fired

• Coworker as unofficially been promoted; aka given all the responsibilities of BF as construction Manger, but without an increase in pay.🥸

• BF also says that some of those 12-15 projects that were still in progress when he got fired, are still calling him for updates on when the project is going to be finished.... 6 months later.

-My point?🤔 - my BF's love language is words of Affirmation. 🗣Honestly the one I suck at the most, go figure LOL.

• I need help on what to tell him through little notes left in his pocket, wallet, text, computer, fridge, full on letter, verbal, etc.

• I do not know the pain he is in, but he has more or less snapped once and said that he feels "hurt, worthless, like shit, has no purpose, not worthy, not valuable."😰

• I am trying my hardest to be his rock and support him how I can, I just need some help, advice, guidance, suggestions, anything really.

• He is more than my BF, he is mybest friend, my Dungeon Master🐲, my puzzle partner🧩, my daddy to the fur babies🐶🐱, my asshole (in a fun way lol), my man. I just want to ease his pain and let him know that he is appreciated, loved, and valued.💚

• Thank you ALL in advance for any and all help and support you can share. 😊😍