I've been trying to get some data on this, and first I posted on AskMen but I guess it's not allowed there because it's a yes/no question and a considered a survey. Then I tried on r/asksex and only got two answers so far, both negative.

I am trying to get a sense of how likely it will be to have successful sexual relationships with men in the future. I have known for a while now that I generally do not like penetrative sex. As a bisexual person, this is fully normalized for me because I don't define "sex" as PIV intercourse, but rather as a more amorphous sexy times umbrella of pleasurable activities. I also imagine that more bisexual/queer people feel the same way, and I'm trying to see if that guess has any evidence to it (awkward wording).

However my impression is that many men assume that PIV is necessarily part of sex.

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What I'd like to get a sense of is how many men out there fall into each category. Will you share which one you identify with?:

1. would never be in a sexual relationship with a female-bodied person if they weren't into PIV
2. would be in a sexual relationship without PIV though it might take getting used to
3. actually prefer NOT to have PIV and would seek women who do not expect/want it
4. other - and please share.

Assume for the sake of simplicity that other sexual activities are "on the menu" - outer course (touching genitals without penetration ), oral sex, toys, and use of hands of course.

I would also be interested to know if this would change for you if the relationship was non-monoganous. But, even if it was non-monoganous, would you/could you consider someone a full romantic and sexual partner if you never had penetrative sex? Would/could you treat them as equally important as another lover who did have penetrative sex?

I'm guessing the answer is "no" to a lot of these questions for many men, and "yes" for a minority, but I'm trying to get a sense of the ratio between the two and especially if there are guys who actually prefer not to have penetrative sex, what your experience is.

ETA: If your response is something like, "why don't you like PIV?" and acting like there's something wrong with that, just count yourself a no or don't respond at all. It's not up for discussion or debate anymore than something you may be averse to, like receiving penetration (from a biological dick or a dildo) if you are not into that.