Hello ladies

I discovered this earlier this week so thought I'd share it with others too. I am 27F with a South Asian background and am slightly overweight. My thighs are big and so are my boobs.

Growing up, I have been compared to other women, told how I was fat and needed to slim down and at one point even told that I look like I am a mother of 2 kids instead of a single woman because of my body shape and weight. My own dad used to comment on how fat my thighs were and that I should exercise.

All of this had led me to have a negative body image and whenever my inner thighs would touch while walking etc, I would always feel ugly and disgusting in my own skin. Because of this I would not let myself really enjoy sex/ sexual activities because I somehow thought I was didn't deserve it or good enough for it.

Recently I have been talking more positively to myself about my body and while I still have a long way to go to completely loving myself for who I am, I currently feel neutral towards it. No love but no hate either. And somehow it shifted my mind set, I am allowing myself to try new things sexually without overthinking it.

If as a woman any of you are ever feeling low self esteem or body issues, try to work on them and it will help you in other aspects of life too, including sex. Hopefully increase the libido.