I used to reason that younger males didn't have the experience and hadn't learnt yet. Fair enough. But I'm almost thirty and I have spoken with many many women on this subject from various age groups and seen/heard thousands of female voices online echoing the same frustration. It's such a common experience for women to be sexually dissatisfied.

Even half of the porn I've seen, males are legitimately rubbing and licking women's peeholes? And you can't deny, every woman has either had a guy trying to fondle her pee hole or directly knows a woman who has.

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I feel like male pleasure is still centred and dominant in ordinary relationships-dating-hookup culture-whatnot

A few of my old friends have been in long term relationships for almost their entire twenties and although they didn't like to talk about their sex life (I sensed out of embarrassment or shame) when they did, they only ever expressed how dissatisfied they were and how it was a chore to them. But for them this was completely standard and normal to them.

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Even with the "female sexual liberation" we've seen this century I feel like it's still so deeply and unconsciously ingrained in most women that we exist sexually for male consumption or validation.

And even if you are somebody who is comfortable enough to communicate in the bedroom to your partner about what you do don't like.... How conscious and extra careful are you being to communicate in a way that doesn't hurt their ego?

How many men have reacted somewhat negatively to you giving them directions or communicating with them regarding sexual intimacy?

Or worse. How many of you have tried to give a man subtle directions when he is trying to pleasure you but he misinterprets you either passively or gently saying no or stop or moving his hand or moving his head or trying to reposition youself as you having 'uncontrollablle pleasure' and then proceeds to do whatever unpleasurable thing he was doing twice as fucking hard with double the enthusiasm so you either have to be confident enough to assertively tell him to stop, pretend like something hurts or you have a cramp to interrupt and distract the act, or protect his ego and endure it and maybe fake climax so it will end sooner?

I would be super curious to know the statistics for how many times a woman genuinely orgasms during intimacy compared to men.

Not trying to shit on any women at all in any of this. Just speculating and thinking out loud and hopefully start a conversation.