Hey. I don't post often, but it's been a little over a year since my life partner died. I was let down by a lot of people, which I know most of you can relate to during this hellish journey. He had a good friend that was in the picture for many years, who I happened to trauma bond with for this first year. It seemed as though it was going to be a friendship that could maybe stand on its own feet down the road - they traveled from Canada with their wife to visit and spent a week bonding over the memory of our special person. Sadly though, these last few months we stopped chatting as much due to hectic schedules, but we had a phone call last night, which came apparent that the lost time had been a lot better for them than for me. But the unfortunate part was that for many reasons it stood out to me as though whatever we were getting from each other was no longer there, at least from their end. I didn't feel valued, heard or respected in some of the key conversations we had during those two hours. It seemed like instead of chatting through our disagreements, they would just go silent, tune me out, or change the subject. While I am disappointed, I tell myself that they were my late partner's good friend after all, and does not necessarily owe me loyalty, or even friendship. On another note, from what I gathered from the call, the months we didn't spend chatting they turned to my late partner's enemies for comfort and closure. They're even still chatting with a mutual friend of ours who burned me months back by trying to take advantage of me in ways I wont specifically get into, and back then it seemed as though they acknowledged the wrong doing at the time, but now feel that since nothing had been personally done to them that they shouldn't not keep in touch still.

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So, I made the painful choice to go no contact because I just can't handle being disappointed, or even reminded daily, that what we had is over and I am no longer valued and respected as a friend.

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Has anything like this happened to you, where the relationship that built from the grief ended eventually? It sucks so much, but I'm glad we had each other when things were super raw.