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Has anybody else noticed a change in their attachment style after your partner has passed?
I have always been securely attached in my past relationships (although I've only recently become aware of the attachment styles).
But since my wife passed, I've become anxiously attached to the two women I've been attracted to and although they've been into me as well, I scared the first one away, and the lady I'm with now is struggling with how I've been going about everything.
I've now seen how my actions have changed. And I think it's pretty obvious where it's come from. I lost my wife and I'm shit scared about losing another love.
I'm learning to recognise those things I'm tending do or say that I previously wouldn't but it's been tough.
I won't ever be able to be attached again I am pretty sure. I want companionship but I never want to be in love again
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It's not just that. I feel that would be a betrayal to her memories and our future plans and I'd prefer to just go the rest of my life alone. I don't ever want to have to deal with people asking me to get rid of her stuff or take her pictures down.