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I know some people give away most if not all of their late spouse's things, but what have you kept in remembrance of them? I know personally that I don't have the heart or urge whatsoever to give away any of the gifts that we gave each other over the years. Whenever I see one of the Valentines Day, or anniversary cards hanging on the wall, I break down. They make me feel good and loved too, but it's so sad that this person I loved with all my heart who loved me and treated me so well is no longer here with me.
Yes, I can relate. Everything in the bathroom, his office, is pretty much how he left it. I don’t plan on erasing that he existed. But maybe over time I’ll put the toothbrush in a drawer.
There are two small plushies, a pig and a cow, that he and I would exchange whenever one of us had to travel a long distance away - one would keep the other until we were reunited. The little cow was his since he was a baby, so it’s even more special because of that. I will cherish these little things so much. We were so cute together and so sentimental. I am so grateful for all the memories and treasures left behind.
Awww, that’s a cute idea, the shadowbox.
I can sort of relate since Jason never got around to checking out one of the Christmas gifts I gave him. It was something for us to do together and we put it off since we thought we had all the time in the world to do it. Sigh.
Come to think of it, I have something like that as well. I'll probably still wear it when I am alone, to feel closer to him. It's the same when I wear his hoodie at times - these things are so precious to me.
The last gifts he gave me arrived days after he died, one by one. It tore me up inside. They're sitting in the basement now.
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I know what you mean. They had a favorite cup that I've put away to prevent it from getting broken. I was worried about breaking it before they died and was always careful, but now that they're gone.. I feel like I need to protect everything of his with my life!