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Crush likes me back, but isn't ready for a relationship yet... now what?
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Throwaway because my main account is easily found by my friends:

So for some context, I (24M) and my friend (23F) have been close friends for almost 4 years now. We initially met through a video game, eventually traded social media, and have been friends ever since. We have a lot of mutual interests, text extremely often, and at one point had pretty long Discord calls with each other every single day. Maybe 3.5 years into our friendship, I realized that I had developed feelings for her, and I recently had the courage to tell her when we finally hung out IRL for the first time.

She said that she also likes me back, but felt like she wasn't completely/emotionally ready to commit to a relationship yet. I 100% respect that and prioritize our friendship first -- especially with how long we've been friends -- so we decided to just stay friends for now.

But this does put me naturally in the position of: Should I hold onto these feelings and wait a bit longer on her? Or should I just move on with these feelings? We were very transparent with each other, and I kind of put the ball on her court and said that if she feels ready for something, it'll be up to her to tell me, as I won't push it. But she also directly told me that she wouldn't be hurt if I did move on, as she isn't completely sure when she will feel ready.

One one hand, I do want to wait and see -- but on the other hand, it's unfortunate being in limbo especially knowing that she does like me back, and I don't want my feelings growing even more and accidentally hurting our friendship by getting too emotional. Even if it doesn't work out between the two of us, I ultimately appreciate our friendship a lot and would want to stay friends.

Any advice would be great!

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