Me [23F] and my boyfriend [25M] have been dating for 5 years. We live on different ends of the world, so making time to talk is usually tough. But we both love each other dearly despite different timezones, and hope to finally meet at the end of the year. He very much cares about my well-being, values clear communication above all else, and both of us have common interests. I'm much of the same, and have a lot of trust in him.

He also can be very honest, whether it is needed or not. Although he's very good at making his points clear, he also has a bad habit of being kind of blunt, and recently, he has admitted that he really isn't impressed by most things. It's something I've known about him for a long time, but it has got me thinking about how tough it is to impress him at times. He's said that it's better to be easily unimpressed than to be easily pleased, but I don't think he realizes it sets very high standards for not only himself, but for other people.

It's not as if he'll never give things a go. He has said he'll try everything and anything, so I can do anything with him if I wanted to. But when I suggest something he might like, he'll usually say "try me", as if to imply that he may not care. Whether it's a movie or a sport or a game, it feels less like something to relax and have fun over, and more like taking a test. It doesn't help that he doesn't have many suggestions for things to do and says he's happy with whatever I want to do, but his beliefs contradict with that point.

To make it clear, I have faith that he's open to self-improvement. Neither of us are the most self-aware people, so we often talk openly about improving as people and as a couple. I mostly want to see him relax his standards a little, especially when we meet up for the first time face-to-face. How can I tell him this?