Hey all. I need some advice. I'm (m19) guy from Canada in a nevermet LDR with a guy (m23) from the Philippines. We've been talking since March. Maybe someone can help me understand this. I'm generally a shy person, in contrast out going. My boyfriend isn't shy. But when I talk to him, I over text him and when I videocall him I'm very talkative. Although I'm shy, I can make conversations about anything and I do my best to show I'm interested. When someone doesn't do the same, I end up concluding they're not interested.

The thing is my guy is a sexual person (compared to me) . We sext and jerk off on video call. I was talking to him about this, this morning. But I was rambling about my day with him last night, about covid, abit of school, and stuff. And he kept asking me, "Do you want to ask me something"? I jokingly replied, " I don't know what to ask". But I already knew he wanted to jerk off. Is it normal to jerk off every time we videocall. We've started doing this in the end of December last year (2020).

Today, I had a talk with him via chat. People advice me that communication is key, so I did that. I wanted to get some things of my chest. I asked him (politely and respectfully), "Does he finds it boring when I talk?" And he replied, " No I don't". Followed by, " Uyab (means boyfriend in Bisaya), you are the most amazing person for me. Im sorry if i make you feel like you are boring. I love you so much". Followingly I asked, " Because you kept asking me yesterday, 'you want to ask me something' but i wasn't sure what you were implying". And I realized he meant he wants me to ask him to jerk off, so I told him he shouldn't hesitate and that he should ask me directly.

What's funny is that after we jerk off, he becomes talkative which I confronted him about and he said he feels happier after jerking off.

I know he's been asking me a lot to call because every time we call, we end up jerking off. He always tells me he likes being intimate with me and he only wants to be intimate only with me. I just don't know. I don't even know if my relationship is realistic since 1) he broke 2) I have homophobic parents who want to move away. Life is hard :(

Idk. I'm someone who would write paragraph if someone texted me a paragraph. While my bf doesn't give me one word responds, if you look at the texting ratio, I write more then him.

About the positive stuff I can say about him, he can we really sweet. He introduce me to his friends and mom. He sometimes post my selfies on his stories, and he made his status on fb 'In a relationship'. Sometimes (once in a while) he writes a good morning paragraph and tags me on posts. He also told me recently that he teared up for me recently since he misses me. And yes, I love him. He admitted that he's sexually frustrated and he only gets turn on by me which is something I don't get.

But I'm abit sensitive, and I take things personally. If someone doesn't seem interested with my conversation, I end up brushing them away and conclude they're not interested.