So this friend I made in university and I were once close, until she got engaged 2 years ago and cut off all her single friends cause she’s “too good for single friends and can only now have engaged or married friends” lol according to her.

I haven’t spoken to her in two years since that and have since gotten over it since it’s been a while.

I get an email today that I thought was spam. Turns out it was a wedding invitation, not personally from her, but from her coordinator inviting me to their wedding.

At the bottom of the invite was a bill for $400 to pay for the venue plus $150 for the meal.

I know this varies around the world but where I am the bride and groom or maybe their family pays for the venue and food. Not random people you don’t talk to.

20 people in total were invited to the wedding. You could see all the emails in the “sent to” bar. So I guess she’s pretty much only inviting me to help pay a cost. I would never have the balls to do that to someone especially after telling them we can’t be friends cause you’re engaged and can’t have single friends. And no I’m not the kind of friend that parties or drinks - she cut off any friend she had that wasn’t engaged or married.

I now know what they mean when they say “weddings bring out the worst in people”

Edit; ok after I declined to her coordinator, the bride messaged asking why I declined so I’m gonna give my response

Edit: you can check December 26 or 27 at the latest for an update

UPDATE:

So after she sent me the message asking me why I declined. I just said it’s impossible to finance that. She didn’t say anything

I spoke the mutual friend. The mutual friend isn’t going but was told about the mandatory payment (lol) prior to the invitations going out because basically like other users here suggested I was like plan C of people to invite and she REALLY needed people to come to this wedding cause the venue gives her a discount if the quantity of people reaches a certain amount. Everyone in the wedding party is not paying. So I was like a last resort type thing, basically like so many of you suggested.

Since we are age all 23-24 not everyone who she invited was able to pay in the first place. So yeah, she was like “who’s next on this list? Oh yeah shades0fcool!” I guess she thought I’d forget about her reasoning for cutting off her fiends but I don’t.

As for everyone wondering who the fiancé is, no one has met him…not even the mutual friend but he was in charge of a club at our university and I’ve heard he’s kind of a dick.

So I guess she realizes like…you can’t just cut friends off and send them that years later. That doesn’t work. But she wanted to try her luck. He has a lot of friends as well so I think his friends overshadow hers and she just wants someone there for her.

But no…you cannot harvest and bare fruit from a tree you never watered.