Basically, My partner and I have been together 4 years, and are probably one of the few long-term couples in our friend groups. In his original friend group, he introduced me to another couple and we’ve all spent a decent amount together, especially because we lived 10 minutes apart for 2 years. During covid the other couple got engaged and I was at their house a lot when they would be talking about the engagement and the upcoming wedding which they would be having in summer 2023.

My partner is technically in the bridal party (despite being a guy), and he was even invited to the Hen Do although he couldn’t take the time off work.

An initial email (the real invites will be sent later) was sent about the wedding last summer that mostly ended up in people’s spam, so my partner fwd the invite to me. I asked him to double-check whether I was invited but he seemed pretty convinced I obviously was and forgot to formally check.

Cut to this week, the bride has sent out another email that my partner got about the accommodation for the wedding (which will be in Scotland, while we live in London). He has been invited to stay at this house with the main couple and their close friends/family for the wedding weekend. He texted her to check whether I could stay in his room, but she said that there were no plus ones because it is a small building and he’d be sharing his room with two other friends.

My partner didn’t want me to be alone so we immediately looked into getting an Airbnb nearby, and booked this instead.

When he then went to let the bride know, he found out that I’m actually not even invited to the wedding at all.

Honestly, I’m so shocked and hurt by this because although I’m not best friends with the couple, we are on great terms and have only ever had good times together. My partner is also one of the bride's good friends, and yet she isn’t allowing him to bring a plus one. It’s just so weird. I spent like 2 years thinking I’m going to this fun Scotland wedding with a ton of friends and my partner, only to find out this was never the case.