I found the dress I wanted (Jenny Yoo - Marisol) on sample sale at a boutique so I jumped the gun and bought it. I tried on a very similar dress (Jenny Yoo - Kennedy @ Anthropologie), but being in Canada, I knew I’d likely have to go for what’s available here (hence the Marisol dress).

The problem is that my mom hates it. I love the off-shoulder look and the soft sweetheart neckline with the draping, and I love the sheen of the fabric. The size of the dress I tried is one too small, so I think I’ll have more coverage once I try on the right size, but I felt like a bride in that dress. I felt pretty. I also want to mention that it’s not my dream dress, but it fits the wedding vision and more importantly, it fits my budget.

She wanted me to go for a long sleeve, Kate Middleton type of lace dress because off-shoulder dresses “make me look fat” and “looks like the dress is gonna fall off”. She insisted I should’ve at least gone for something sleeveless if not full sleeves, and that the dress is tacky and looks ugly.

I wish she’d just be happy for me. It’s really hard not to let her comments get to me, and I just don’t know how to navigate her disapproval. She disapproves of the venue, the decoration choices, and now the dress. I imagine the rest of wedding planning won’t be fun either (I’m a total type A so I’ve been so excited to plan this thing).