Will try to keep this short!

I am from the US. My husband is from Chile. We met in the US, have been living here, but have plans to move to Chile when he finishes his doctorate next year.

We actually got COVID-married last August. Because my husband's family obviously couldn't come, we decided to have zero family there, just us and a witness, and do a big celebration later, which is what we're doing. We did have a small dinner with my parents/grandparents afterwards, but my parents were pissed that we didn't have a Wedding (hello, COVID???), and that they couldn't even come to the ceremony.

So, we're planning a wedding for this January, in Chile. Mainly because, we love it, it's much, much cheaper to have a wedding there, and we want our US family/friends to visit and enjoy it.

The other big part is that Chile is a much poorer country than the US (the peso is .0014 to the $) Neither of our families are well off, but it'd be much harder financially for my husband's family to come to the US, than it would by for my family to go to Chile. We're not asking for gifts, and while I do really want my family to come, I understand that it's not possible for everyone, and won't take it personally if they can't come. Any way we do it, it'll be hard for people to come, and we know that. But it'll be much harder for the Chilean side than the US one.

My parents, however, think we should have 2 events, one in the US and one in Chile. They feel that we're being disrespectful to my (US) family by not having a wedding in the US. They're trying to hide it but it's clear that they're NOT happy with how we/I'm doing this.

The thing is that my husband and I don't want to have 2 weddings. It'll be more work, more money, and will be less the wedding that we want. Hubby doesn't want drama, so he said he's fine with two if it'll keep the peace, but it's not what he wants. If we have two, there's no chance that anyone's going to travel, so it'll just be a small thing for my family, and a small thing for his family, which just. Isn't fun and isn't what we want. I also don't want to cave to my parents, because it's not their wedding!

Before you ask, we don't know who's paying for the wedding yet. I know that my parents had plans to help pay for my wedding, but this was waayyyyyy back, and we haven't discussed it. I plan on asking them for help, but I haven't yet because I know they're unhappy with the whole situation, and I do think it would be unfair to ask them to pay for a wedding they don't support.

I just really need outside perspective, big because all the tension between my parents and I sucks and is spoiling the whole thing. Please help!