I'm the MOH in my best friends wedding, I'm trying to get the girls together to plan the bachelorette which...ugh. but that's another story. My question is about paying for the event. The Bride wants to do a paint and sip (drink wine and paint at a venue that supplies the instruction and painting supplies. BYOB). To make this a private even is pretty much the same as going to a public event ~$40 per person.

Is it the norm for the invitees to pay for themselves? If so, how do I word that on the invitation? It will likely be a Facebook invite.

I already am planning on supplying the favors, decorations, paper goods, & cupcakes myself. I'd like to ask all invitees to bring a bottle of wine. Is that ok? I'd also ask the bridesmaids to bring other snacks (veggie tray, cheeses, chips & dips).

Is any of this out of line/the norm? I'm not working, I take care of my grandparents and can not afford to throw the event myself.

I've only been to one bachelorette, which was a bar crawl, and we all paid for ourselves/split the cost for the bride. I'm not really sure what is or isn't appropriate or what is too costly.

Thanks for any help/guidance!