We are getting married this month and my mother refuses to attend my wedding we have are issues as all family does. Months before hand my father had passed away me and my dad were very close like glue . I have reached out to her letting her know we are getting married on such and such date she responds all happy and is with everything. Not two weeks later she responds with can you change the date I’m planning to have my birthday party that weekend I responded is a birthday more important than watching your son move his life to the next chapter . I’m not going to go right into it let me sort of explain the issue my father was in the hospital for a TBI after falling and hitting his head my mother wanted someone to be with my dad at all times and I was also for this cause we all no how hospitals are. So I currently work m-f 12am-9am my mother wanted me to go to the hospital at 4pm till 9 pm then go to work everyday I told her that I could not do this cause I need to sleep and have a 1 year old at the time ! I told I will go everyday 9am -12pm and go home and do what I need and go to bed but that was not good enough for her. She simply told me I’m not trying to help and not be there for my father witch broke my heart after that my father came home was still having the TBI issues but home comfortable same thing went on she demanded times that I need to come and help her witch did not work with my work/kids life after a few weeks went by I was still helping her would come over roll him change bath him ect but was always not enough in my moms eyes . My dad was diagnosed with esophagus cancer and was told he only had a few months to live. At the funeral and all everything was fine I was conferting my mom and everything seems okay. I text her a few weeks later asking if we can sit down and talk yell at each other and be a family again she agreed and we did we said our spills me my soon to be wife and her we set boundaries with our son and my brother we did not want around her house with our son there. This was a problem! My brother and I don’t talk he said things that are unacceptable against my own family and I simply told my mom that these boundaries need to be in place she said I can’t keep him from coming over here I told her then I can’t let my son be alone with you . A issue ^ so on so on I would let my son go over there I have no clue if my brother have been there but I put it behind me trying to let my son have a grandmother. She don’t reach out asking how he’s doing she don’t offer any help after my dad passed I was thrown under the bus. Let me get to the points this it to long sorry guys and gals . I reached out multiple times asking if she was attending the wedding due to rsvp she never answers two days ago I text exact words Hey do you plan on attending the wedding we need a final head count for food and all for rsvp no answer I text back the next morning are you just not going to answer if your not attending just say it she respond I told you multiple times I will not be attending . After that I kinda went off told her she will never see her grandson again or will never hear from my family again am I wrong for this please help me out cause my head spinning I will respond to questions !