So this is not something I can talk to my IRL friends about since I don't really want them knowing.

I messed up and looked at my DH's throwaway account. I know, I know, I shouldn't have done that but it was there and so I looked. Really wish I hadn't and if I could go back, I would.

He has told me that he had one and that he doesn't comment on it or anything but he just uses it so he can subscribe to weird subs without them being linked to his main. We had a talk about it and sorted that out. Anyway, I looked, and saw that he was commenting in deadbedroom. Now I thought we were fairly active. Could we be a bit more, maybe but we do it 3-4 times a week. If we're super busy then maybe 2 but that isn't often. We have talked about how he has a much higher sex drive then me but I am trying to work on it. The BCP really killed my sex drive. He has said some things in that sub that I don't really like at all. I'm hurt, confused and over all just baffled. He hasn't come to me and said that it was as big a problem as he has stated there. In fact he has said it is better and he has nothing to complain about. IDK what to do. I don't want to really tell him I was looking because I went against trust. But Idk ladies. Apparently we have some talking to do. But idk how to approach the subject.

Edit: I talked to him, he apologized and said he didn't know why he said those things and now it's fine again. Thanks for everything guys.