Hi! I donโt really know what to say here, this is all still very new to me. I'll start by sharing a bit about who I am: a blend of a thoughtful nerd and an enthusiastic sports fan. I play chess and write computer programs.
I'm also a die-hard Mets and Islanders fan, finding excitement and a sense of belonging in the world of sports. There's something about the energy of a game โ the suspense, the cheers, the collective spirit โ that really invigorates me.
I love Swing Dance/Lindy Hop, and before moving to New Jersey for grad school, I enjoyed dancing in the local community every Friday. I have perfect pitch, play Super Smash Bros., and love to sing, having participated in a cappella throughout college and now regularly singing and dancing along to songs in my room, the kitchen, or the shower.
Physically, I'm somewhat on the slender side at 5'6โ and 110 lbs. I've been described as sweet and gentle. In terms of intimacy, my experience is limited. I'm pretty vanilla but open to new experiences and exploring this aspect of myself with someone who is understanding and patient.
So, why am I still a virgin? It's a mix of personal choice and circumstance. Growing up, I had the idea that I would wait until marriage, but as I've grown older, my perspective has shifted. Looking back at my college years, I didn't really prioritize pursuing relationships or sexual experiences, something which I sometimes regret. Part of this was due to my nature as a late bloomer โ my first kiss happened at 19 during a game of truth or dare, and my first date wasn't until I was 22.
Another aspect of my journey is that I'm cupioromantic, meaning I seek romantic relationships but don't experience romantic attraction in the conventional sense. This has made it challenging to form the kind of connections that might lead to losing my virginity. I spent a lot of time focusing on my hobbies and interests, and admittedly, I was a bit aloof and didn't really put myself out there in social situations, especially ones that might have led to intimate experiences.
Now, Iโm in grad school, and it feels another opportunity to take some plunges I didnโt feel ready for before. I'm at a point in my life where I'm ready to explore new territories, to understand and experience intimacy in a respectful and meaningful way. I'm not looking for multiple dates or a string of encounters (but then again, are any of us who are on here?). Instead, I seek a singular experience with someone who is empathetic, patient, and open to being part of this significant moment in my life. It's important to me that this experience is comfortable and enjoyable for both of us.
If you're someone who is interested in sharing this personal milestone with me, and if you think we could have a good time together, I'd be really happy to hear from you! We can start with a conversation, get to know each other a bit, and see if we click. I believe that communication and mutual respect are key in making this a positive and memorable experience.
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