Sorry if this doesn’t fit the theme of other posts, but I’ve driven myself mad over this. Over the past five years, I’ve been in relationships with different women. We’d basically do everything but sex, since I had initially wanted to save it for marriage due to being Roman Catholic. My senior year of hs I was dating a girl who seemed okay with waiting, but once we got towards the end of the relationship I feel like a big stressor was the fact that I didn’t want to have sex with her. Personally, I did want to, but I was just thinking about my faith. When I would ask if this was still a problem for her, she would brush off the convo. I know that’s not my fault but it seems to be the biggest stressor in my relationships.

Then I was casually seeing a girl in college. I began to be more open to the idea of having sex, just at least with a commitment around it. This girl slept around at the time, but we were on and off throughout school. When I realized how long we’d been hanging out, and that I actually was open to dating her, I told her we could do it. It seemed like the pressure was too much for her, and we didn’t do it even though she wanted it more than I did. Seemed like she didn’t want to be the one I regretted doing it with.

Now I’m with a new girl who has never been in a relationship, and I’d like to work up to it. She already wants sex after a couple dates, and at this point, should I even hold back? I don’t want these relationships to keep ending solely for the reason that I won’t do what I’ve been wanting to. Im gonna wait till I know this girl better either way, but I can’t deal with this being a deal breaker anymore. I still like the idea of waiting, but if this is an obstacle to get to marriage I might as well go in, right? I don’t think I’ll regret it overall, I just hate how much pressure there is about it. I just wanna give/get some head and cuddle.

TL;DR: My relationships keep ending because I wanna stay committed for a while before I have sex. And now it’s just plainly a turn off that I’m a virgin.