It's effectively gaslighting virgins into believing that they are mentally unsound for feeling down about their situation. In reality, you being upset about your lack of sexual or romantic success is natural for a human with sound mental faculties. I especially hate it when people tell you to see a therapist when they themselves would lose their shit (probably worse than you) if they have to go months without sex - oh and I bet you, they would not think of themselves as insane for getting angry over not having sex like they'd think you are crazy for being visibly frustrated over your involuntary celibacy (I'm not calling any of you incels, I'm using the term purely in a formal context). They would think THEIR sexual frustrations are well warranted and normal but that your depression stemming from having no partner is a symptom of a psychological issue. The double-standard is very unfair.

Honestly, if someone can't help you at all then they should not pretend to, especially if it's just to boost their own egos. It's so disrespectful of them to do that.