Hey everyone I'm a 26M and honestly I'm not sure if I'll ever lose my virginity. I just started to try and put myself back out there and it's not going well. I was thinking of trying dating apps, but honestly my self esteem is so shit that I'm not sure how to even begin. I keep hearing how only good looking guys ever get dates. I tried posting in the virginity exchange subreddit and honestly that's been shit so far. 2 were just straight up scammers only asking for money. The one girl won't really verify herself so I don't feel comfortvaly meeting up. Plus she says she's broke and has no money so I'll have to pay for everything. I think she might be genuine, but not being able to verify is sketching me out a little. I want to trust, but honestly don't think I can without some hard evidence like a meet-up or videochat. I don't drive so that is an issue, but she says she needs gas money. I told her I'd pay her in person, but she still says no. Like I feel like maybe I'm being to paranoid, but if I'm paying for everything else shouldn't I be allowed for some verification of who I'm meeting?

I don't know sorry for rambling on. Just really lonely and trying to be vulnerable is tough. Knowing people are trying to scam you when you're reaching out for human warmth is a weird feeling. If anyone has advice let me know haha.

Good luck everyone.