currently seeing two people from a dating app. one guy and one girl.

the girl (25, entj/enfj) and i (24, infp) matched in january. we’ve met 3 times and it’s been nice, but nothing like !!! for me. we established that we’d be cool with casual/fwb. we have the vulnerability, mutual interests, physical chemistry but she’s too extroverted for me i realized. i can match her energy but i’m drained afterwards.

the guy (27, infp) & i matched in march, and we’ve also met 3 times. this feels different in that it has the vulnerability, mutual interests, physical chemistry and the quiet introvertedness. i don’t feel like i have to strain my personality. he’s my current crush.

the other day i was playing a question card game with the girl. we pull a “who is your latest crush” i tell her about the guy bc i thought it wouldn’t be out of boundary. i ask her who her crush is and she said she would text me it (found out later bc her roommate was next to us)

so now i’ve found out that the crush was me. she thought it was obvious but i guess not to me? when she tells me over text that i was her crush i apologized about bringing up the guy, cause i’d see it as disrespectful if i knew. she also said it’s totally okay to like/date multiple ppl since we’re casually seeing/dating each other but that she would def prefer not to share it with her for now.

i have also told her that since i have this crush rn it complicates how i can express what exactly /i/ feel towards her but i would also love to see her again. she asked that we have a meta discussion about this overall situation, which yes!! i’m down.

my issue now is with our personality types. when she told me she liked me i joked and said i was boringer than her, which she said what! you’re not boring. but!! the thing is i’m drained after her, and i don’t want to tell her that. even just to the boring comment she said “do you want me to be boring??” i said “no!! def don't be more boring” i enjoy my time with her and i don’t want her to change her personality, but i don’t see it working long term as i will probably get resentful. i seem much more outgoing than i am. the real ones know how much i have to recharge & the guy is just like me lmao.

i’m seeing her on the 27th, and the guy on the 22nd. i really want to text her how i feel instead of waiting to discuss why i don’t see it as romantically as her, but yeah.