Hi. I would like to start by saying that this post is by zero means any attack on parents. I respect parents and everything they go through. This particular post is a rant about how I am sick of SOME people being rude to me and calling me selfish for my choice to not have biological children.

My entire life as a woman I've been expected and asked to have kids.
Does this upset me? No. Because it's the societal norm.
What DOES upset me, however, is the responses I get to my statements similar to:
''oh, I don't actually plan to have kids''.
I have written a whole separate post about how the responses I get piss me off and how I'm sick of being disrespected for it, so I won't get into that here.

Instead - I'm going to rant about one of the most infuriating responses I get from people, usually men.
''Oh, you're selfish.''

It makes me so mad that this is an automatic response people say to me before even hearing any of my reasoning. First of all, it feels like they're trying to insult me or make me feel bad for not wanting kids.

Now here's the thing - It wouldn't make me so mad if they actually had a fucking clue what they were talking about. These people who call me selfish seem to be projecting.

Let me be absolutely fucking clear, I am NOT selfish.
And EVEN IF I WAS, who would I be harming by being so selfish? The answer is no one. I'm actually helping the planet if anything.
Let's say even they were right, okay so I chose not to have kids. So what? Am I harming the kid? The one that doesn't fucking exist? the one I chose not to bring into this shitbag we call a world?

I can actually tell you right now a couple things my ''selfish'' bitchass isn't doing. I'm NOT:
- Bringing a child into an overpopulated and corrupt world.
- Increasing my carbon footprint more than I have to.
- throwing trash on the ground
- eating meat
- attacking others for their choices
so let me be clear, I'm so selfish, so greedy, because I want to spend the money, I earned on myself before accommodating someone who doesn't yet exist, because I choose to not bring an innocent, naive child into a sick world where they could get murdered or worse? Because I don't want to have to force someone to take care of me when I'm old and carry my family name?

Nice fucking try guilt tripping me.
If you want to make me feel like I'm a bad person because I am choosing not to bring a child into this fucked world, you're going to have to try a lot harder than that.

If the people who called me selfish for choosing to not have kids were as selfless as they claimed themselves out to be, let's be real here, they would adopt a child in need, whose parents were ripped apart or tragically passed away, a child who's literally dying in a foster home to be loved by anyone.
But instead, these ''selfless goody two shoes'' parents who don't give a fuck about themselves choose to ignore all the overcrowded foster homes and have ''their own'' kid who will grow to be expected to give their parents grandchildren, carry the family name and take care of the parents when they are elderly. How selfless, am I fucking right? This is projecting on another level. You see me not as how I am. but as how you are. People who have kids have them for THEIR OWN SAKE, NOT THE SAKE OF THE KID. THE KID WILL BENEFIT MORE FROM NOT EXISTING.

Calling someone selfish for not wanting kids is the stupidest thing you can say to them.
But sadly, it's one of the most common answers. I'm fed up with having people throw that stupid little disgusting word at me. But lucky for me, I can throw it right back at them because I know I'm not the selfish one here. I'm not the one forcing someone else to do something because I'm upset that they'll be spending their own hard-earned money to spend on themselves, instead of another person yet to enter the bloody planet.

I'm also sick of men telling women shit about not wanting kids. You don't know crap about what we go through and how painful it is. Not everything is all sunshine and rainbows like some men think it is.

I don't want kids. And I don't owe you any explanation. I'm done with the people calling me selfish. I'm so fucking done. I deserve to be respected for my choice and get an ''oh, alright'' to my response the same way I respond to others instead of the BS I hear at least once a month...