My ex (32 F) and I (32 M) divorce was finalized today. We were together 15 years, High School sweethearts and I feel so crushed like it's hard to breathe. To shorten the story, essentially I grew restless carrying the workload for the house chores, finances, sex life and working towards the goal of having a child. So I proposed divorce.

Yes I suggested counseling, books and communication and she just never budged. Until after the proposal. She asked if she had a chance and I said I'd never know but I would need consistency and don't want her to be something she's not. I want her to be happy and love herself. We tried reading the marriage book and she gave up on that too.

I just feel so hurt and I know she is hurting too. I feel so worthless because I want to scream "why wasn't I worth fighting for! Why didn't you put effort into the things I enjoy or spend time with me. Why wouldn't you come to bed with me. Why do you not ever listen to my advice. Why can't you understand I wanted you to be physically in better health to enjoy life longer with you. Why wasn't out goal of having a child not a priority"

I only ever showered her in love and never yelled at her but now all I feel as someone people don't desire or love enough to fight for. All I ever ask is to be treated fairly and have a partner, not be a caretaker. I'm just so fucking sad.