I have never been a very social person, that's not to say I can't be, I just like small interactions with people. I have never liked gatherings and have problems thinking about people who aren't in my everyday life. You would think after 32 years of being in people's lives other people would understand that, but I constantly run into issues where I am put on the spot for social interactions.

Growing up I kept a small group of friends like 2-3 people that I would hang out with, but I would mainly hang out with my best friend and his sister since I practically lived at their house. Anytime people would go over to visit or they would throw some sort of party my friend and I would hide away in his room playing games or just watching anime. Sadly he passed away about 5 years ago, but I have keep in contact with his family and still consider myself to be a part of their family.

They are a very social family for the most part, they will have cook outs for family friends celebrating any moderately big life event. I rarely ever go to most of these because there is usually 30 or so people there half of which I know nothing about but they act like I should know as much about these people as they do. And when I do go I'm expected to be as social as everyone else. Thankfully now that I moved to another city I don't get invited as much since they know I'm not going to drive 2 and a half hours each way for a house party.

Apparently I am an ass hole because I haven't called my friends sister to wish her a happy mother's day or called to tell her happy birthday for her most recent daughter which I've met like 3 times. I love them but I have never given them any indication that Im the type of person who does that sort of thing. Because I didn't call, I was told that I hurt her feelings and wasn't invited to the most recent party which was a pregnancy announcement. I don't mind not being invited, I could use more of that in my life, but I was told I hurt her feelings for not calling.

It's not just them and it's not just for big events. My grandma and brother act like I hate them because I don't call as much as they want, but NONE OF THESE PEOPLE EVER CALL ME. How am I the ass hole in this situation?! People act like I don't like them because I don't call when they think I should but I never get calls checking to see how I'm doing or just to catch up. If I ever hear from my friends mom, sister, my grandma or my brother it's only because they need help with something. I never mind helping, but I'm sick of being called a stranger when I'm the only one who ever picks up the phone.

It seriously drives me fucking nuts. How do people not realize how inconsiderate it is to expect the other person, someone they all know to not be social in this case, to be the sole communicator and blame them for it?!