Raising kids is hard. I realise because I see so many fuckups around me. The things I have seen, border on child abuse. But ofcourse that word itself is relative, one person's no no is another persons 'setting the child straight with a stick'. And another persons cavalierness can be interpreted as 'neglect'. Without diluting any further, raising a child is fucking hard!

And people make them anyway for stupid reasons 1. It's what a couple is supposed to do. 2. Partner wants a child/legacy and you don't want to loose the partner so child gets born. 3. Raise them to be your future (old age) caregiver / financial support.

And n-number of reasons. Some perhaps even sinister.

It sucks, for the child. And since they are the future population, it sucks for everyone in a few decades down the future.

Wouldn't it be prettier if only those that truly realise the challenge and ready to take it have kids? Or atleast actually realise the freaking responsibility, and take steps to learn putting ego aside.

The freaking number of times I have seen a child hurt because an adult couldn't keep a brush to their ego to themselves. Being smaller and dependent and 'innocent' (euphemism for dumb), they are soooo easy targets to let out some steam on.

Omg it's so sad. The adults think the kid will forget, or 'thank' them when older. What delusion! Not always though, you can Stockholm Syndrome a kid into liking you even if you wrong them for your personal selfish use. Such manipultive shits some adults (parents) are.

Sigh, I'm so sorry. For all this grief expressed above. It just hurts me, seeing a child - weak dependent be stuck receiving abuse or b.s from the supposed 'guardians' of him. They are so afraid, yet powerless and numb, stuck. It's troubling to watch.

Maybe because I have also been there, somewhat.

Not saying the parents don't 'love' the kid, they often do. But does that give the licence to occasional abuse?!