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How do you deal with being a minority with a team of mostly incompetent chefs? Seeking guidance from hard working and honest chefs who's gone through similar situations.
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Unexpected change in job field and 4 months shy of hitting 2 years experience in culinary which makes it hard to get a better paying job then the one I have($17 tips($0.5 - $4) Live in Spring Valley area of Las Vegas, lease will be up end of July. Availability is mostly in the evening do to me pursing my "education" in combat sports so I got that going against me when finding a job. As well as its super slow right now. I do own a set of cheap chef coats, culinary bags with some basic tools for prepping and knives($45 - $150, Nakiri, Yanagiba, Gyuto, Chef knife, and a $20 crap knife i bought for my current work) and know how to sharpen my knives.

I've been extremly blessed to have worked under 2 seasoned chefs(20 years experience) who were strict and taught me the basic principles, discipline and standards of how a chef should behave to earn their paycheck. One of them was the spitting epitome of Gordon Ramsey from Hell's kitchen and the other one was more patient in his approach and trusted me more to figure things out on my own.

Anyways enough about me

The title says it all but the current place I work at has people abandoning their lines constantly, people on their phones, drinking problems, people talking, micro managing, inconsistency in plating standards, never picking up after themselves, mise en place has left the chat, language barrier as half the team is not familiar with english. Getting shade thrown at do to being a minority ect. ect.
Every Friday or Saturday shift I'm set up for failure with caked/crusted non stick pans, wok needing to be cleaned & re-seasoned, grill is caked with ash, half the 6 pans in my line isn't filled, sauces are half/mostly gone from sauce bottles, having to slice and dice onions during a Friday rush because some ass decided to slack off the whole weekday and did multiple things i mentioned above to kill his time on the company dime.

The worst part is that the HC allows and does a lot of the things I've listed. Seems like to me the standard of the kitchen is, "I'm here to collect a paycheck without getting fired". I confronted the chef about my line being set up for failure and his response was, "i know you're a perfectionist, but we all are not perfect". On the bright side the GM is a true leader and runs a strong FOH team that is EXTREMELY professional. He's gone through being a minority for most his life so I have a hunch that he knows whats going on. A true G, a real Chef, not just a leader but a commander that can read tickets upside down and guide the team efficiently getting tickets out the fastest way possible.

The last straw came this week when the dishwasher and I had an argument as I called him out on him playing mental gymnastics again for the 4th/5th time. I pull out my phone for a bluff because he knows he's full of shit which gets him to back off. I put my phone away and started to walk away and he started to mouth off by saying, "mother fucker, little bitch, piece of shit" I turned around and stood at attention military style to stand my ground so that the security camera could see the interaction. I raised my voice to berate him on how wrong he was and told him I wasn't scared to get fired standing up to him. He started to advance towards me while still swearing but a small waitress got in between us which he blatantly bumped into to make her stumble. I didn't want her to get hurt so i decided standing my ground wasnt worth it. He told me, "he would see me outside," and i asked, "you don't mean to fight do you?" that was the end of the conflict

At the end of the shift GM came to me with a glass of beer and told me thank you(I floated between 2 stations that day with the GM helping when he had the chance do to a last minute call out which made it so both the grill and oyster station couldn't get properly prepped for the dinner rush and on top of that there was a 5 course meal for a table of 3). I normally refrain from drinking but i respect this man so much and the help he gave the kitchen that night that i respectfully took his offer thanking him and lifting my cup as a toast of gratitude.

After coming home and thinking hard about what happened, I wrote a text to my HC and gave him a time stamp(wrote the time on my arm) of when the dishwasher started to play mental gymnastics and requested that he look at the footage as this was a ongoing problem. I also mentioned:

  • i'll be looking for a new job and will give 2 weeks notice as long as nothing is being stolen from me
  • if i'm getting let go/fired im requesting a 2 weeks notice
  • main reason of wanting to leave is my culinary principles don't match the kitchen team and cause friction
  • i have no respect for dishonesty, discrimination, bullying, gaslighting and poor work ethic at the expense of others

texted back and forth a couple times, he quickly changed the subject as he realized he slipped up lied/gave/claimed conflicted information and possibly looked immature as he looked like he was coping more than anything.

I've gone through a similar situation before being the only Asian in a room full of Hispanics starting off as a dishwasher but it wasn't as bad do to the fact that the owner was always there working and would make sure there was no BS going around with camera's everywhere and because of that I was able to persevere till the people causing the BS got fired, won the respect of other Hispanic workers and got to a point were i was running the kitchen(didn't work out as i could barley speak Spanish) but i believe this situation is a complete loss :(
It sucks that i want to find something this early on do to the fact that I could still use another 3 months to gain experience in grilling/baking animal proteins as well as get faster at shucking oysters but it is what it is as i completely feel detached at this point in the current situation and can only think a opportunity on par or better.

Anyone who's gone through being a minority in the kitchen shed some light? I know practicing stoic principles is the best way to go at this but damm i need some help and tutelage. Is it better to just keep your head down, compromise your integrity, enable disrespect, emotionally detach and be promoted to a power position? or do you suck up to everyone and chase being liked instead of respected? I need help and tutorage as this is going to be quite the long journey

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